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| 1 | Any arguments against "Misandry annoys, Misogyny kills"?My argument is that it’s not true. Misandry is just this malignant evil that women can further say “oh I’m the victim again!”. What’s the number? 5% of divorced men will kill themselves? These aren’t men who just had mental health issues and there was nothing we could do. These are men pushed to this by women. (Source: me being in mental crisis and her smiling and pushing every button she could). Women have held this poor victim role for all time but are usually right there at the heart of evil.… | /r/MensRights | 28/02/25 12:04 PM |
| -2 | Men, what are your experiences with creepy woman at childhoodWhen I was 15 a 24 yo teacher at wedding blew me. She wanted to fuck but I was still a virgin and didn’t want her as my first. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/25 09:17 PM |
| 3 | DEI Dying is Great for MenHow many of these women are attending college for the grants and other programs that create income for them but don’t count toward income for child support and alimony calculations? I believe a large percentage are not actively degree seeking. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/25 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Just Let It Go, What the Fuck Does That Mean - a guideSorry I thought this was going to go a different direction but I think it applies. I think I big issue men deal with is the fact that men are left with big debt they are owed. Whether it is closure or an explanation for the years she was checked out, or lots lots worse. When the divorce or the split happens everyone wants you to just drop this debt and start fresh, work towards whatever, but it is so unjust. I think a lot of men aren’t actually struggling with the loss of their partner but with … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Wow you aren’t good at like situations. Would you appreciate him getting an STD test on his own before you have sex for the first time? That’s a like situation. You should test to put his mind at easy, doesn’t matter how close they look to him he will have doubts. We all do because it doesn’t come from our bodies. Plus the part you seem to not get is this isn’t the equivalent of cheating. This, paternity fraud, is something so heinous, that I think as a woman you can’t comprehend. Imagine loving… | /r/MensRights | 17/02/25 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Your first line is that’s always a possibility. It’s always a possibility for him that you cheated. No one is so virtuous that a man doesn’t have doubts. And the paternity of your child is such a huge thing, that I will go back to my original statement. If you love your husband, you will willingly and without being asked get a paternity test for him. It should be the good women driving this movement. | /r/MensRights | 17/02/25 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.So you are willing to marry a man even though you understand no matter how well you vet him or choose the possibility of him cheating is a possibility? | /r/MensRights | 16/02/25 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Do all long-term relationships get dull?My opinion isn’t that they get dull but there is a shelf life on her accepting you for you. There is a pretty hilarious video on how “situationships” or “just hanging out” turns into relationships for women. And it’s just the girl agreeing with the carefree low commitment relationship that men like. For me that seems to be the reality, I’ve taken the time to write down exactly what I want from a relationship and what I consider acceptable behavior. Women will be like “hell yeah this is great!” F… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/25 12:30 AM |
| 8 | Why can’t they just apologize?No they aren’t apologizing without apologizing… that would be if she came up with a sandwich and put the hair tie in. Then I could say ok the act of saying it is tough but they feel remorse we are good. But no she’s just trying to ignore it. Idk why apologizing is so hard and feeling bad is so hard. My ex wife isn’t a good example because she was incapable of feeling remorse. She apologized 3 times in 11 years and each of those apologies lasted less than a day. But the last woman I dated I could… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/25 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Deal with Ex who doesn’t want to cooperateIt’s honestly the worst part and they never really get better. You kinda just fight until you get a situation you can deal with and then live with it. They will drag things out and threaten at every turn. They will try to get you arrested and lie to the courts without any remorse or accountability. It’s just about managing your expectations and staying in your little peaceful world. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Haha great closing line!!! Totally agree. That’s why I like the “well this was fun while it lasted approach” | /r/MensRights | 12/02/25 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Yes absolutely but I don’t think expecting your partner to be a similar person to who they were when you fell in love is unrealistic. I know the joke means she won’t age but I don’t think that’s the actual case, it’s more about not changing into someone who is a constant point of stress. | /r/MensRights | 12/02/25 12:19 AM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.This is such an abusive mindset, reality is messy and even the best and most trusted bonds can be betrayed. Men don’t have the guarantee of it growing inside them. Women’s lack of empathy on this is a bigger issue. You are either intentionally hoping to cause emotional distress in your partners or hoping to protect women who are committing paternity fraud. I welcome any thoughts you have on this. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/25 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Do you believe that paternity fraud is less than a percentage point? | /r/MensRights | 11/02/25 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.I have repeatedly said that the government shouldn’t be involved and that good mothers should do this to curb the doubt that all men have. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/25 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Wow, for starters (I’m guessing you are a woman,) living in this world how could you not have doubt? Seeing the way women treat men how could you not have doubt? | /r/MensRights | 11/02/25 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.I like it but I have my kids, I’m more of a 7 months kind of partner. At that point she stops pretending to be cool and starts trying to get me to act in ways I don’t like. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/25 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Tips for keeping spousal alimony lowI completely understand and hate that. After tons of fighting I convinced my ex to “get a job” because we were struggling. She got a job that made $60 a week. Asked me if she should call out of every shift. If i said no we need the money we would fight. She would spend probably $80 after every shift blowing off steam from her job, luckily she spent two hours getting ready before it started. Was vehement that she didn’t want any extra responsibility or money. And the kicker was she would yell at … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Oh I prefer it. I don’t think the dream they sold us was ever real, long term with a woman is never better than being alone\ | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.I’m with you sir. The problem I think you are facing is that women’s abusive behavior is acceptable in societies’ eyes. I always bring up all the sitcom mothers out there just henpecking and constantly abusing their husbands for laughs. This then goes to men aren’t equals in their wife’s home and he has his little man cave and when he doesn’t clean it how and when she tells a grown man to clean it. She gets to call him a child and claim she is being forced to mother him when she is choosing to b… | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.The big part is mom getting the permission and being the driving force of the testing. But the point is all women should understand that they can’t claim to love their partner if they don’t get him a paternity test to prove he’s the father. If they don’t do it then they are willingly leaving him to struggle with one of the most damaging forms of self doubt. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Do you think we won’t have a colony on mars? I’m not asking you to help. But it’s a better solution than trying to get the government to have a law requiring it. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Yes but the “good” women, need to start getting them when things are good and shaming the bad ones. So we know when a woman doesn’t want it it’s reason to suspect her. You will see women argue that a husband wanting a paternity test is grounds for divorce because that means he doesn’t trust her. So if you can get women to willingly get it in situations where they know it’s a lock. We can use women not getting it as demonstrating a lack of trust. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 05:56 PM |
| 8 | Tips for keeping spousal alimony lowThis is like my ex and I get so annoyed at the constant chant of “you decided that she would stay home” “she stayed home because he said he would take care of her”. The only people I know that actually agree to have the wife stay home have been pretty well off and the wife being fairly high achieving and then went on to be a high achieving SAHM that anyone would be a fool to divorce. I try to argue that the bigger issue is refuse to work parents, not stay at home parents. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 05:53 PM |
| 5 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Mandatory is tough and the government always messes up everything they touch. I have written this argument better than I’m going to write it wrote now but basically women need to spear head the paternity thing. It needs to be “I love my husband. Doubting paternity causes men pain. I don’t want my husband to feel pain. Here is a paternity test.” We need to encourage all women that this is the only acceptable thing in 2025. Whether the kid is 40 or 40 weeks. Women need to start reassuring their me… | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 02:39 PM |
| 3 | AlimonyMy lawyer had us get a vocational evaluator that basically testified that my ex could be making $XXX. The judge didn’t accept it but I still think it’s a solid strategy. As far as the abuse allegations. Two things 1) in divorce the judge only needs a preponderance of evidence which means they believe it might have happened and 2) pushing definitely meets the criteria, mine was the ex had shoved a phone in my face and grabbed it and threw it. There are lots of weird little “if there is a preponde… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 01:56 PM |
| 3 | For those of you who had to go through “war” in your divorce I want to hear your story and how you made it out.I hit arrested at the kids birthday, then didn’t have any where to take the kids because I forced to continue paying all the bills in the house I didn’t live in while she would load the kids in the car with neck pillows to door dash and save her non custody nights to go out. Finally got a place after temporary orders but still had to pay her rent with the judge saying I’d get the money back. But didn’t have anything because i couldn’t go back in the house. Ended up with a tent and an air mattres… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/25 08:13 PM |
| 4 | Hot Bedroom Toxic RelationshipThis was kind of my situation. It wasn’t as great as when we first started dating, but it was never bad. I would say we averaged 5 times a week and were pretty adventurous. But generally everything else was a fight and walking on egg shells. Sex is different as a single divorced guys. I’ve had lots of partners and checked almost everything off my bucket list, but it’s less fulfilling knowing that eventually it will lead them to a place I don’t want to go relationship wise removes some of the lus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 11:40 PM |
| 6 | Does it get *any* better once papers are signed?You are going to deal with and mourn the loss of that particular future. It’s just part of it but hopefully at some point you will look around in all your sadness and say “what do I have to be so sad about?” And then it’ll just stop. I was happy when it all ended and happy I was getting divorced but I was still sad about the change, then one day after about 18 months I had the above thought and life has been really great. My ex is pretty awful still but you have to take a step back and realize h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 12:47 PM |
| 3 | Does it get *any* better once papers are signed?I love the way my house is decorated and styled. I don’t think my ex would have allowed four gaming consoles set up in the master bedroom so me and the boys could play Fortnite together. Her and I have similar decorating styles but she was so messy and I need to declutter every week. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 12:42 PM |
| 3 | Any advice on how not to be a narcissist co-parent would be appreciated.Learn about boundaries. Write them down. Stand by them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 11:43 PM |
| 2 | I am struggling to get by. I got a job offer to work as a contractor at Facebook. I could pick Miami, Austin or Atlanta. My son lives in Orlando, which office should I pick?I drove for work daily, not to work daily. First it was big loop Orlando to Tampa to fort Myers to Miami back to Orlando then it eventually it was one coast one day, the other the next. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 07:42 PM |
| 1 | I am struggling to get by. I got a job offer to work as a contractor at Facebook. I could pick Miami, Austin or Atlanta. My son lives in Orlando, which office should I pick?Miami I used to drive from Orlando to Miami every day | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 03:50 PM |
| 5 | What statistics are there for common arguments feminists like to use against us?The biggest one I see that drives me mad is the “alimony only happens in 10% of divorces” that seemed so off to me so I researched and all I can find is an interview with a law professor from I want to say late 70s early 80s saying this. No studies nothing but they will use it to say alimony isn’t a thing. Tell that to the $65k I have to pay. | /r/MensRights | 15/01/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been?I didn’t care she had a boyfriend. And was actually happy he was inspiring her to be a good mom if only for show. But it’s been a year, they live together (essentially), which means he lives with my kids and he has yet to introduce himself to me. That is annoying to me. I try to be empathetic because I know my ex probably said I was the worst and he’s trying to be solid but there are certain things you do as a man. First opportunity I had I introduced myself to the step kids dad. The important t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/25 07:14 PM |
| 4 | Reason for divorceI always talk about how no one would ask their wife to marry them if they were having sex the way the are having sex… and being told to be thankful they are getting what they get. And I love that try and argue that men are there for more than sex or that they aren’t using sex as a weapon because women like sex too. But basically you go in paying $10,000 for 10,000 items and one day they show up with 8,000 and if you call them on it, they say how dare you, you are disgusting. To get your other 2,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 11:56 PM |
| 32 | Reason for divorceOnce a day is porn addiction? Do you also have a three times a day food addiction? Look these women don’t naturally have accountability and when they are challenged instead of reflecting they externalize and play the victim. Then use that to further misbehave, refuse accountability, get challenged, externalize, blame/ play victim… round and round. I’m glad you got out. Good job! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/25 02:18 PM |
| 8 | Ex lazy during marriage but not after divorce?Haha yes mine was awful for the first year. Fed the kids $2 walmart pizza and chicken nuggets, refused to take them to sports or the doctor. Met a new guy and is pretending she’s super mom, she cooks him dinner every night and they go to the kids games together. The kids notice that they are just an accessory | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/25 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Any divorced military dads?Bought to go pick up the kids, but yes I’d say I’m thriving. It sucked but it was so worth it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/24 07:09 PM |
| 15 | Lost interest in womenDamn where do you find these women! I make it really clear from the beginning that the highest rule is “if I feel like you are trying to change me or I’m altering my behavior for you… we are done” But I think you nailed it when you said you don’t like to sleep alone. Women are imho more likely to be predators because they don’t believe they can be predators and you are probably ringing a dinner bell for them. I also think that a lot of women have been taught to be abusers by tv and movies. Our g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/24 03:58 PM |
| 4 | Wife complains about my job.I used to work seriously like 120hrs a week, we were seriously struggling financially she wasn’t working and Id get back at 9 o’clock from driving a truck for 16 hours and she’d be made I didn’t have time to listen to her complain about her life or to do the house work she didn’t do all day. I think a lot of women just lack empathy and personal responsibility and expect you to magically remove struggle and unhappiness from them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 08:02 PM |
| 4 | Wife complains about my job.I bent over backwards for my ex, and even divorced she is still like why can’t you bend over backwards more. I’m going to give you advice for your future ex (sorry to be harsh but you need to realize this) that I wish someone would have given me. Don’t budge! Every step you take toward what she wants you will just lose respect for yourself and she will lose even more respect for you. Don’t budge! I know you will sit over there and say no I can do the right thing and compromise, but truly comprom… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 07:57 PM |
| 3 | Did you any of you guys benefit from therapy post divorce?There was a good post on here or r/mensrights about having the right kind of therapy as a man. That a lot of therapy is geared toward women. I’m not going to pretend to know what I’m saying about this. therapy was awesome and great but I have found that it isn’t helping me solve problems and I’m kinda over that and need a therapist now to help me work toward better. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | How many other gay men are here?I scrolled a bit and didn’t see anyone else comment about him. There is a guy named Jack Donovan and he is according to Wikipedia “is an American far-right writer and activist. A self-described masculinist, Donovan was an influential figure in the alt-right until he disavowed the movement in 2017.”I only have a peripheral understanding of him… and as I look him up I’m like “yikes”. But why I brought him up is he is big into masculinity and talks about when he first came out feeling like he neede… | /r/MensRights | 06/12/24 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Butt kicked in courtSorry so you take home 3k a month and they told you, you had to pay 2240 a month? This is for alimony? And this is temp orders? What state? Like until the trial? I’m not a lawyer but your lawyer doesn’t have to live with the outcome and you do. So pay your bills first then give her the rest. Also dig into your statutes and find out what the deal is on them awarding it. Like in my state the two factors first does she need it then can you pay it. So I ask about temp orders because in my temp order… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/24 04:51 AM |
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