NaturalSelectionNine Archive

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1	How to change your mindset around very attractive women? + FR What has worked for me with very attractive girls is not differentiating between them and less attractive girls at all. For me a 9 is the same as a 6, and honestly they really are, especially from a personality perspective, if you spend enough time with them. So till you don't break the habit of differentiating, judging and sorting girls as attractive or unattractive unconsciously in your mind, you may not see much success with "attractive" girls. And as for how I prevent myself from falling int…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 08:28 AM
2	What’s wrong with me? There are girls into me but the ones I’m interested in are not interested in me? You need to consistently cold approach girls you like so that the change in your behavior, which is happening as of now when you talk to girls you like, stops happening. Your physiology reacts differently, mostly in a low-status way when you're talking to girls you like. So the more reps you put in of cold approaching girls you like, the more your physiology adapts and feels safe, and it makes sure your behavior doesn't come across low status, creepy, weird, off, etc.	/r/seduction	02/10/25 08:18 AM
1	Starting to lose hope. This phase is inevitable, and everyone has to go through it one way or another in their cold-approaching-girls journey. Some go through it in the beginning, some in the middle, some later, and some often here and there. Often you'd still lose even if on paper you did and said the right stuff, so you need to understand and accept that the only thing in your control is your action and not the result. And if as of now the only option you have when it comes to taking action is for you to keep going,…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 08:11 AM
1	Trying to recognize "hints" from women is always a nightmare Don't make this complicated. Focus only on her actions, reactions and behaviors. Everything else? Ignore. The best way to know her is by simply approaching her and shooting your shot.	/r/seduction	02/10/25 08:04 AM
1	What was the most key mentality change that helped you the most to flirt? Being present. Being present makes you more calibrated. How to be more present? By simply consistently cold approaching girls, because then you're forcing your physiology to adapt and be more present, especially while talking to girls. You can find tons of techniques online on how to flirt, but they won't work in a CALIBRATED way if you're not present. Because it's mostly about HOW you say it rather than what you say. Believing in yourself, the process, and your physiology... that you'll say the…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 07:50 AM
1	How to get into the right mood before date or being social without alcohol? Don't make drinking your crutch. You have to do the approaches no matter how shitty, helpless and weak you feel, but fortunately eventually your physiology will adapt. So it's hard only in the beginning. As one of the guys here suggested, if you're feeling like shit, firstly don't be harsh on yourself, stay calm and do light approaches, including guys, with 0 expectations. And once you start getting in the groove, go all in, but do NOT drink. Do not make it your crutch brother. Build yourself to…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 07:43 AM
2	Going to the club tomorrow, how do I actually approach girls this time? You kiss her ASAP and then pull back. I.e., you approach her by giving her the hand of God, i.e., you give her your hand, you spin her, put her arms on your shoulders, hold her by the waist. and do a few light moves. Maintain strong eye contact and a cheeky smile. As the guy above said, don't talk much because it's of no use in the loud environment, so you whisper in her ear. This turns her on, and you do push-pulls, i.e., saying statements that have both +ve & -ve elements. For example: "You lo…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 07:37 AM
1	How to approach this girl at class There's no such thing as "gradual" attraction, brother; that's just comfort building while attraction is at maintenance. Currently you've got attraction for her; she doesn't for you, and until and unless you don't shoot your shot, you won't be able to create attraction fast that actually builds to comfort, which you've been talking about as "gradual" attraction. The comfort stage is where the win-win situation is created. So by wasting time and not taking action, you're not only doing yourself h…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 07:19 AM
1	Tinder openers I won't give you any lines because you can find tons online. Instead I'd give you the principles and systems to keep in mind that will help you be creative and curate your own texts that actually get you results. You must stand out with your opening text, so you must accuse her. How do you accuse her such that its playful but at the same time -ve enough to get a reaction out of her? Push-pull, i.e., you saying a statement that has both +ve & -ve elements to it. Now you can take this a step furth…	/r/seduction	02/10/25 07:11 AM
3	Dropped After Distance Best way to beat oneitis? Abundance. How do you build abundance? By actually going out in the real world and consistently cold approaching girls and making things happen till you build the abundance that satisfies you and completely eliminates any urge or idea of oneitis in your mind and body completely. As for why girls behave like this? Honestly no one knows, and it DOESN'T matter. Because all that matters is WHAT girls react to, so investing your energy into why they do X, Y and Z is a waste …	/r/seduction	02/10/25 07:03 AM
2	How to be seductive? By staying consistent with cold approaching girls. The more reps you put in face to face the more you’re making your physiology learn, adapt & internalise. I won’t you give you the “techniques” there are countless on the internet. I’m telling you the “system” it takes to progressively practice those techniques individually, till they get internalised & eventually you get natural at it.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 08:28 AM
1	How to date without drinking Just get a mocktail. They’re non-alcoholic drinks. But you believing first dates being at a bar are best is a limiting belief my friend. I don’t drink myself & I’ve done same day lays from quick coffee instant dates. Never once pulled a girl from a venue where there was directly or indirectly any alcohol involved. Why? Because I’ve a strong sense of belief that I can make it work the way I want to & I want ti make it all work without the alcohol.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:42 AM
1	How Do You Flirt and Build Sexual Tension? Calibration. You learn to calibrate well when you’re present. You learn to be present with the girl when you’re consistently cold approaching girls enough that you’ve forced & now built your mind to be present. So once its present it knows exactly when to. Show intent, tease, pull back, neg, escalate verbally, logistically & physically to make things work.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:37 AM
2	How Do You Flirt and Build Sexual Tension? By staying consistent at cold approaching girls, building abundance, enough repetitions with girls that you truly understand & can predict their behaviour. From that point on they’re no longer a “mystery” & that’s when it starts to make emotionally no difference.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:34 AM
1	I don’t think I’ll ever get a girlfriend and I don’t know what to do about it What would you say to the fat guy who went to the gym like 1-3 times, found it extremely hard & thinks “its not for him”?. You’d say something like keep trying right? Similarly you can’t expect your physiology to adapt & build the skillset of cold approaching girls if you don’t stay consistent. You’ll of course fail, it’ll of course hurt but so does you not approaching the girl. Pain is inevitable my friend so you’d rather choose the “better” pain.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:29 AM
2	Coworker Just don’t. Go out, cold approach girls, build abundance & an attractive character. Build your life attractive & interesting. If you shoot your shot when you’re not the best version of yourself the odds of you getting rejected & your work environment getting spoiled for you increases. That’s why you go out on the streets, put work there & in every other domain of your life & let her make the first move i.e. something as small as simply asking something about you. That’s more than enough for you …	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:23 AM
2	Can't control my m****bation Brother you need to channelise that energy into something sexually productive & nothing is better than actually going out, approaching girls, talking to them & making things happen. Not only will you feel more channelized. But the subset skills you’ll learn will just make sure that this skill adds to almost every domain of your life i.e. wealth (sales), health (discipline), mental health (strong self belief) etc.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:19 AM
1	Looking for a a little help in San Diego 🙏 Nothing will help you more than going out solo & doing cold approaches solo man. Sure you can still try to look for a coach or a wing on the side but the skill of going out solo is too potent. It’ll build you a strong self belief, self image, belief in the process etc.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:16 AM
6	How to deal with Extrovert Guys in mixed sets Simply start cold approaching girls more consistently & seriously, that’ll build the abundance you need to not be needy & WANT to be the extrovert guy in your warm social group nor will you want attention from girls there. That’ll build your sub communications & vibe that actually get the girls in your group attracted & even the extrovert guy himself & befriending you. So don’t be dependent on your social circle, go out, approach girls & build your abundance yourself.	/r/seduction	01/10/25 07:11 AM
1	Women simp on whole another level Exactly & that’s the best part. You get to choose to control your reality by not sitting around feeling sad & unfair & simply just going out, approaching girls & giving your best. Until & unless you’re doing all what’s in your control you’ve won brother.	/r/seduction	30/09/25 08:46 PM
3	Being physically attractive makes life easier but it’s not the only advantage Glad that things are getting better for you. But you need to take this more seriously than ever, dedicate at least next 3 months into actually going out & cold approaching girls. Sounds scary I know but its such a potent meta skill that am confident it’ll solve most of your issues especially the mental ones.	/r/seduction	30/09/25 08:33 PM
6	Being physically attractive makes life easier but it’s not the only advantage You need to build the prerequisites first i.e. volume & approach anxiety tolerance. Best part? Volume itself builds approach anxiety tolerance. You need to do 4 sessions/week of 10 approaches/session for next 3 months to get this sorted. Yes it takes that long because fundamentals gets you 80-90% results. So master the basics.	/r/seduction	30/09/25 08:27 PM