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| – | Women’s Dating Preferences Are More Influenced by Insecurity Than Men’sjust because YOU haven't does not mean no one does. I've heard it enough times from my girl friends to know its not just a one off. So why are you downvoting me for simply disagreeing saying "here is a counterexample based on my experiences"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/26 09:02 PM |
| – | Women’s Dating Preferences Are More Influenced by Insecurity Than Men’signoring the whole insecurities thing from OP. Ive heard often from women they want to feel feminine and small in a relationship among other things along those lines. I believe it comes from the more liberal side where men instead of putting women on a pedestal, treat women completely equally as just "one of the boys". This leads to the woman feeling like theyre being treated as a "bro" rather than as a woman in a relationship, so they express this by telling people they want a relationship wher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/26 08:55 PM |
| – | CMV: Men who are sexually aggressive and constantly “on the prowl” seem to be much more successful at dating than cautious menits why you need both otherwise you just have a fragile ego. You believe its their mistake for not picking you because you are so great and its their loss not yours. What would you describe it as? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/26 04:48 PM |
| – | Men Lie About Their Politics Because They Know Their Ideology Is a Losing OneYou also ignored my initial question on choosing not to date someone based on their past partners race. Do you believe that the person making them decisions likely has some racist beliefs? What reason is there to date men at all? Whatever reason you give for that you can give for bi men too. I will flip it on you and say what tangible reason or benefit is there to excluding them? Why would you rule out someone who could be otherwise perfect because of the past partners? What makes them in any wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/26 04:42 PM |
| – | Men Lie About Their Politics Because They Know Their Ideology Is a Losing OneSure, whatever helps you sleep at night i guess. You have bigoted beliefs deep down, if you want to just flake it off a preference sure. Women pick too many shitty men for the excuse to be "i only date guys who are perfect, so any little thing means they get excluded". So that logic goes out the window for me. The reason most women dont want to date bi men is for homophobic or biphobic reasons. The choice itself isn't homophobic/biphobic but the entire belief and logic it is based off, is... why… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/26 03:15 PM |
| – | Men Lie About Their Politics Because They Know Their Ideology Is a Losing OneI think its fine to say that, but if they for example would not date a black man who had lived their entire life in china and was as intimate with the culture... then it would boil down to internalised racism and not culture like you are describing. By its nature dating is discriminatory, that's what most people call "preferences" (i wont even get into the fact everyone uses the word wrong and actually mean deal-breakers). Its fine to have deal breakers, but if they're based within race or sexua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/26 09:31 AM |
| 6 | Men Lie About Their Politics Because They Know Their Ideology Is a Losing OneI love this because it always comes down to why does it matter if they also want to have sex with men. They're not gay, they like women just as much as straight guys like women. The reasons conciously or subconsciously always boil down to a homophobic beliefs. Let me give you an example that should make this glaringly obvious how it comes off to bi men and women when people say its just a preference and they're not homophobic. If someone said "I dont date women that have dated black men, its jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/26 08:40 PM |
| 4 | What is conventional dating advice for women, how are women usually "oriented" to approach love, sexuality, and relationships?A wise grandmother. Good advice, the world will be better if everyone listened to that advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/26 06:18 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Men who are sexually aggressive and constantly “on the prowl” seem to be much more successful at dating than cautious menits a combination, they dont have to be mutually exclusive. looks money and status can increase your success rate, but that doesnt translate unless they are meeting more women. For example, - GuyA (Cautious and waits for clear signals): Asks 20 people, 5 go out with him. This guy has a 25% success rate GuyB (GuyA but good looking, rich etc etc): Asks out 20 people, 10 go out with them. This guy has a 50% success rate. GuyC (average but aggressive): Asks out 100 people, 15 go out with them. This … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/26 06:09 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men who are sexually aggressive and constantly “on the prowl” seem to be much more successful at dating than cautious menEven better is that every woman is different, so what would be pushing just hard enough for one woman could be entirely too far over the line for another... and you dont know which it will be getting into. So the ones that actually care a bit about how other people feel will end up playing more cautious and safe than those who dont really care about making women uncomfortable if theres a chance atleast one of them will say yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/26 05:58 AM |
| 19 | CMV: Men who are sexually aggressive and constantly “on the prowl” seem to be much more successful at dating than cautious menI think it takes a certain level of narcissism and ego to be able to do it without caring about rejection in the slightest and to keep on doing the same thing until it works... at the end of the day they are doing it for their own gain, they are playing the numbers game and brute forcing it. It is a numbers game... men have been saying it for decades at this point. With that said it is the reason women get spammed with so many likes from men on dating apps. Why men are very forward and flirtatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/26 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Women pick the bear for very real reasons. It really is always a man.I get the whole bear thing. I just think the way it's framed can come off badly and hurt the wrong people... all while the people who need to get the lesson from it completely miss the point. It sucks having to feel forever untrusted because of something not to do with me and completely out of my control. I've been SAd by women, i don't go around never trusting any women ever again even if they are genuinely sweet and kind to me. So i pose the question, how would someone like me ever get over th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/26 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Women pick the bear for very real reasons. It really is always a man.Give them a chance to respond atleast, its not been that long | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/26 06:58 PM |
| 8 | Women pick the bear for very real reasons. It really is always a man.Then what? Am i just going to be forever assumed to be a bad person because other men can't control themselves? Is there a long term way out of this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/26 05:45 PM |
| 6 | Women pick the bear for very real reasons. It really is always a man.what do you suggest is done to fix it? Like what do you expect me as a man to actually do that will make a difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/26 04:15 PM |
| 11 | Women pick the bear for very real reasons. It really is always a man.Definitely feels like theres no winning sometimes. Youre either a sexual degenerate or you must be gay, there's no inbetween. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/26 04:08 PM |
| 1 | “You’re single because your personality sucks” is oversimplified, but still true.Its not a personal attack, its an question. If OP can not agree that it makes them an asshole and less dateable, then they are hypocritical to their own argument. They do not truly believe it to be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 09:09 PM |
| 4 | It's not a privilege for girls to have their ability to solve their own problems kneecapped from a young age.You cant blame everyone else for your problems... you have your own free will, you can still learn these things on your own. If you choose not to because of your privilege, thats entirely on you and no one else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 07:42 PM |
| 3 | It's not a privilege for girls to have their ability to solve their own problems kneecapped from a young age.If for example your parents are able to give you money when you need it and help you when you need it, that is a privilege. There would be nothing stopping you from from developing good money skills on your own, it is entirely on you to do so still. You can learn how to solve your own problems while still accepting help when its offered. You dont need to suffer through hardships to learn the lessons of them... thats the great benefit to having privilege. IMO its the dumbest thing to not use your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 07:17 PM |
| 0 | “You’re single because your personality sucks” is oversimplified, but still true.oh you know what i mean | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 05:01 PM |
| – | “You’re single because your personality sucks” is oversimplified, but still true.Are you an asshole then? You show several of those traits. So you don't deserve to be with someone by your own logic, you would agree, yes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/26 04:00 PM |
| 5 | "Most men would love to date most women, most women would not love to date most men" this is a lie.Everyone is complex... but most arent at a point where most men would consider them undateable, most aren't going to have the issues you mentioned. Assuming you're actually trying to have a relationship and communicating then compromise and handling flaws is a part of a relationship. Im sure many do, because most women and men do not have flaws are complete off the charts unmanagable. Men are more open to compromise for someone who cares deeply about them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/26 07:49 PM |
| 12 | "Most men would love to date most women, most women would not love to date most men" this is a lie.what if the woman is a bitch? has naggy personality? extremely materialistic? a gold digger? has high masculine expectations of you? hates the way you chew and tells you everytime you eat? Is that most women to you? "most men would date most women" hinges on the fact that these women also must be blank slates, extremely nice and agreeable and have zero to no bad qualites that would make a relationship sour. This is just not true if you look at the world around you. You can definitely have a happ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/26 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Women should always mention physical attraction when talking about other preferencesThat number includes those in relationships and not looking for a relationship i imagine, which skews it. In the last 10 or so years, ~40% of (straight) people that found a relationship found their partner through a dating app. It is the most common way followed by meeting through work/friends ~30%. You can say the average woman isn't using dating apps... but most people who are actually getting into relationships are using dating apps. So what you're saying is the average women isn't actually l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/26 09:22 AM |
| – | How important is a woman’s first time, really?can we just ignore OPs post and debate the question anyway? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/26 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Women, do you prefer watching porn with big dicks?What kinda answers are you looking for here... Yes there are people that get off to smaller dicks specifically... yes theres no where near as many of them. The "ideal" size is 7", most women dont really care if you're below that within reason. Porn you get what you get, there's a lot more that goes into porn being hot than just dick size. Most don't actively seek out small or big dick stuff... most of it just tends to be big dick stuff because its porn, its easier to film a big dick going in an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/26 04:33 PM |
| 17 | Men who complain about not getting laid are making things worse for themselves and then it will only be used as fuel to make fun of them.People are allowed to vent out their frustrations and complaints... most dont do so IRL or have people IRL to talk about it with without getting made fun of or judged... most definitely arent venting to the people they're looking to date either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/26 03:06 PM |
| 2 | There’s a huge male insecurity crisis, and it’s becoming a huge problemLook, you can do everything right and still get unlucky, that's just life. Even if you have plenty of hobbies, experiences and connections you enjoy... it doesn't guarantee you will get a relationship out of it, even more so if you aren't actively trying to seek one out. For me personally my life is great, i have a good and varied set of hobbies (some that are for me when I'm alone, others to be social, and some to stay in shape, or a combination of above), a good social life with friends with a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/26 01:11 PM |
| 2 | There’s a huge male insecurity crisis, and it’s becoming a huge problemHave you ever considered the fact you might have just got lucky? You were in the right place at the right time with the right person. Its easy to say don't be insecure to the guy that feels like they're doing everything right and still struggling. It is a cycle that is hard to break out of, you try 10 times without any luck you will ask "what am i doing wrong, what can i do better", you try 50 times after improving and putting in all your effort into everything with no luck... and you will start… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/26 06:41 AM |
| 3 | There’s a huge male insecurity crisis, and it’s becoming a huge problemYou are trusting an unreliable source. I really cant state how much you should not blindly trust what the AI says... it is wrong, a lot... or source its information from a tiny snipet of something larger wothout the rest of the context. I have had sarcastic bullshit advice i said here on reddit to show up on googles AI overview where it presented it as genuine advice. It doesnt verify anything to check if its actually true, it just assumes if someone is saying it, it must be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/26 06:30 AM |
| 1 | It’s simply all about pleasurePeople have been asking what makes women tick for centuries, the answers are always the same... it depends on the woman and her personal taste. What is the intent of the post? Surely there has to be more to it than a question asked 1000 times here before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/26 10:30 PM |
| 1 | It’s simply all about pleasureand what causes her to be convinced before someone tries impossibly (in your eyes) to convince her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/26 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Men fail to acknowledge they have the upper hand in datingWhat do you believe the actual percentages are? Is there a different study that better represents real life? What makes dating apps different to real life on terms of preferences and attraction? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/26 10:06 PM |
| 1 | the bi men conversation is sillyYou are the one missing the point... If they were rejecting you ONLY because you were straight, because they have prejudice against you, because assume every straight guy is a sex pest, only straight guys cheat all the time, and they all have STDs... then yes that would be hetrophobic. If they are rejecting you for reasons other than your sexuality... so it would not be hetrophobic. Is it making sense to you yet? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/26 02:06 PM |
| 0 | the bi men conversation is sillyNo it doesnt. They are not rejecting you purely because you are straight and any negative assumptions and sterotypes that come with it... they are rejecting you because youre being a sex pest. It doesnt matter if you are otherwise the perfect man, it doesnt matter if you've never even been with men, if you say you're bi suddenly they make 1000 assumptions about you and your character based purely off the label. If a bi person is an asshole and you reject them because they sre an asshole... thats… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/26 06:21 AM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menRight but you are assuming it comes from a place that isnt inherently bigoted... there has yet to be a reason that isn't. My only aim is for bi people to be accepted as people, we shouldnt be seen as lesser men or different... we are still just men who are attracted to women just as much as any straight guys... just also into men. You shouldnt be getting rejected because of it. Too gay for 70%+ women (bi and straight) and too straight for 50% of gay men, what a lovely rock and a hard place to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/26 05:40 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menWhat would you call it then, a disgust towards a gay person only for the reason they are gay. (and i can tell you from first hand experience, it is disgust) They are, this topic of conversation comes up a lot in bi spaces. Those are the kinds of beliefs women have given as reasons. All based on assumptions and prejudice. Not a single one hasnt been yet. If you dont want to be with someone because of a fact that is fine... if you dont want to be with someone because of assumptions youbhave about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/26 02:57 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menGOOD BECAUSE IM NOT SAYING IT IS! You can say no, im not saying you have to say yes. The reasoning behind not wanting to do it is based on biphobic/homophobic beliefs. That is what the target of discussion is. The reasonings range from "they all have STDs", "theyre actually gay and just lying", and "gay sex is gross". All of which can been seen as biphobic/homophobic. Homophobia is more than just a fear of gay people, it encompasses more than that. What are you misunderstanding here, how can i e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/26 02:21 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menThe fact you are comparing like men to wanting to diddle kids is fucking crazy ngl. Its not a sexuality. You can be straight AND a pedophile, but you cant be straight AND bisexual. The bi man should not want to go back in the closet, but when every women you meet that likes you instantly gets turned away because you dated a man years ago and assumes youre actually gay, and lying and all these other nasty things... its easier to just say you're not. You can have the opinion that bisexuality is wr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/26 11:16 AM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menYeah im sure homophobes are so terrified of gay people that they scream when they see one. Either way you've pushed me into that corner comparing bi people to pedos and saying yeah it's totally the same line of thinking between the two. In fucking short because im so tired of this convo. Read it through fully. YOU DONT HAVE TO DATE ANYONE YOU DONT WANT TO. You can have preferences, even if those preferences are based in racism or bigotry... but dont go around saying theyre not actually racist or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/26 06:22 AM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menYou can lose attraction, but it comes down to why. If you lose attraction and want nothing to do with your partner because you find out they are attracted to children then great, youre pedophilephobic (idfk idc). You dont like pedophiles. You find them gross and disgusting. By the exact same logic if you lose attraction and want nothing to do with your partner because you find out they are bisexual then great, youre biphobic. You dont like bisexuals. You find them gross and disgusting. If you ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 10:03 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menSexuality is different, it is not something you get to choose and have a preference with. Preference by definition is choice. If you like men you like men, if you dont like specifically black men... why not? They are men too, what is different? You can say it's because you dont like black people because say, you dont like how loud they are. It comes off as racist but you can say yeah... i guess im racist but its not going to change my preferences. AND THATS OKAY. You can have your preference, it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:54 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menA lot of bi women have the same opinions, as do gay men. There is a lot of biphobia, ive personally experienced significantly more than i thought i would in this day and age when i first started dating again. Studies on it are usually around 70% of straight women wouldnt date a bisexual man. They are by far the biggest group but also have the strongest views against bisexual men. So the chances are if a bisexual man approaches a women... they will be a straight women with those views. Thats why … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:49 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menThere isnt wrong with it. You can have discriminatory preferences... but you can atleast admit they are discriminatory and some even based in assumptions about a person that might not be true, right? You can admit that and accept they are discriminatory. Im just trying tocget people to self reflect on why they have their discriminatory beliefs, like what is the core reason why you are discriminating against this group of people. You can have your belief, im not forcing you to change your mind, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:45 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menI did, im allowed to sterotype the same way women do against bi men... im allowed to have preference, even if those preferences are based on assumptions about the person... but atleast i can admit the preferences are based in beliefs that are fundimentally wrong to have on a moral level. You can leave the pedo if you want, no one is shaming you for that. That is morally wrong. What is morally wrong about having been with a man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:41 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menIt is like hiding the fact you like tomatos because your partner might fucking HATES tomatos and breakup with you over it. Its eaiser to just say im not interested in tomatos. If you get caught you get caught, but using the same excuse the people here are using not to date bi guys (totally not a cop out btw)... I dont owe you an explanation. If people were more accepting, people would be more open. Its that simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:38 PM |
| -1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menWho said i wanted kids? I dont want to be with someone who clearly isnt over their ex, its messy. Right but they don't have a "type", they were just indifferent to what race their partner was. You made up that "type" context of your own. So you, in the example i actually gave, agree it would be racist. Im glad we are on the same page. So why is a women rejecting a man for having an ex who is a man not bipbobic/homophobic? It is identical logic. They dont have "a type" because theyre dating a wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:28 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menWhat are you even talking about at this point??? you have gone off the rails. You didnt answer a single one of my questions, so im not going to answer any of yours. If you dont want to partake, i wont either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:18 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menThey are attracted to women. They're not gay. If i stopped dating someone because their ex was of a different race, would i be a racist in your eyes? Why does it matter if they are attracted to people of different races too, if they are attracted to me and only me now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:13 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menWhere did i say that? Im not trying to date them. Im trying to get people to reflect on why theyre not interested. Who said i dont for the first, and for reasons on the second. I dont want to get involved in someone elses mess, call ot whatever you want but atleast i have a reason and can admit it instead of hiding behind "its just a preference, i dont owe you an explaintion". If i stopped dating someone when i found out their ex was a different race, would you think I'm racist? Is there anythin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:12 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menIs it shame to get people to self reflect? You are only shamed if you believe its wrong too. So if you truly believe its a good thing to believe why do you feel shame? If i stopped dating someone only because their ex was of a different race, would i be racist in your eyes? If not why not? Is there anything wrong with that? Should i feel shame if people called me racist for that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:08 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menwhy does it matter? If im a man, attracted to women, in a relationship with a woman, who is attracted to men... and i want a monogamous relationship... why does it matter? Its not like i want to be with anyone else, im happy in my relationship. So why does it matter? Would you stop dating someone if you found out their ex was a different race? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 09:03 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menNo??? When did i say any of that??? No one is saying they HAVE to date bi people, the same way you dont have to date someone who is ugly... you can have a preference... but if youre going have bigoted preferences, atleast admit you have them for bigoted reasons and not just "a preference i dont owe you any explaination for". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:58 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menNo, which is why those reasons can be seen as fatphobic if you refuse to date someone who doesnt have those bad habits or poor health.. just because theyre fat. Suddenly it goes from a preference for not liking people who make poor health choices and have bad habits... and just being because you dont like fat people. So tell me what is the reason for not dating ALL bi men, even those that are clean and want a monogamous relationship? What reason is there? No one is saying you have to date a bi g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:54 PM |
| -1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menno one is trying to do that... i dont get where this argument is coming from. The whole point is that reason behind WHY that preference exists in the first place. You can have a bigoted or racist preference... but you cant go out and say you're not those things when your beliefs are clearly based in bigoted or racist roots. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:49 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menThe reasons are usually related to poor health and bad habits. There you go, thats a reason. Even if some say its fatphpbic, its still a reason. What is unhealthy and bad about being with a man? Like what is the reason? It can be a bigoted reason, but you have to admit its a bigoted reason instead of knocking it off as just a preference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:43 PM |
| -1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menRight... you can... im not saying you cant... but you have reasons for all of those things. Im not forcing someone to change their perspective. The reason everyone is so up in arms is because its the same as a racist person trying to say theyre not racist. If you would simply admit yeah i am, this wouldnt be such a big huff and puff. Im not trying to convince someone not to be racist, im trying to get them to reflect and realise they are being racist... Does that make sense? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:39 PM |
| 2 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menYes... and you are allowed to have that preference, but it is still age discrimination. No one is trying to coerce you into dating them, it is just trying to get people do some introspection and reflect on why they feel the way they do. No one is forcing you to change. Its like a racist trying to claim theyre not racist... its why everyones up in arms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:34 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menLiterally what is the difference between a women dating a straight man and a women dating a bisexual man. What difference is there to the point you can never date any bi men because of this difference? The answer is, there isnt one! If you are dating a monogamous person who is bisexual... there is ZERO difference. So what good reason is there to never date any bisexual men, only because they are bisexual? Not a single comment arguing against dating dating bi men has given a single reason against… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:31 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menholy fuck you just cant help yourself but twist it can you. This isnt about rejection, you can reject someone for any REASON you want to. This isn't about the rejection or dating, it is about why they have that view in the first place. WHY is it a variable, why is it something that is important and matters. What is it about someone being bi that makes them fundimentally different in your perspective that it makes someone incompatible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:26 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menSo personal attacks now great. You cant give a single good reason so you resort to that, nice. Im not saying bi men have to be in their dating pool. No one is forcing women to date bi men, no one is saying they have to. What everyone is looking for is the REASON they are being excluded. The same way there is a REAOSN why women choose to exclude MAGA men from their dating pools, there is a reason they are choosing to exclude bi men. After all your comments you still haven't given a single reason … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:21 PM |
| 2 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menAs i said, theres not a good reason. So what was the point of presenting a bad one? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:17 PM |
| – | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menWHY ARE THEY BE EXCLUDED IN THE FIRST PLACE? Thats the whole fucking point of this discussion jesus fucking christ. Can you avoid it any harder??? They are men, attracted to women, and the women are attracted to men. There isnt a mismatch. We are telling them to do some introspection as to WHY they have those feelings, why are they choosing to exclude bi men. There is a reason, choosing to gloss over it as simply a "preference" is missing the point... because there is a reason for a preference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:14 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menRight so just blanket everyone with the same brush... everyone must have it then. I shouldnt marry ANY women because its more likely it will end in divorce than if i married a man... thats the logic you are going with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:11 PM |
| 4 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menThis logic doesnt make sense, there is no "bi" look, you dont have to look a certain why to be bi. Not every LGBTQ person wants to make their sexuality their whole personality and look. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:09 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menThats not a preference, that is your sexuality. Is sexuality a choice now? These are women that are attracted to men, that are attracted to them as women... there is no mismatch, you'reboth attracted to eachother and all the other body parts and personality etc... So what reason is there to suddenly get turned off by bi men? The reason they dont want to give an explanation is because it is for reasons that are bigoted or homophobic. Which is fine, if you will proudly say "yeah i dont date bi men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 08:06 PM |
| 0 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menWHY do you have that preference. What is the reasoning behind it... thats the entire point of this discussion and you are actively choosing not to engage with it. People can have their preferences, thats fine, im not saying anyone has to date a bi person. Why are you failing to understand that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 07:56 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menyou are just actively missing the entire point now. Im not saying you have to date them, the entire point of this discussion is WHY is it no, what is causing you to say no in your heart. What is the deep reasoning in your heart behind it. Thats the entire point of debate, what is your argument other than "because i said so". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 07:54 PM |
| 2 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menI love that you purposefully dodge the question. why is it no, do some introspection. Im not trying to force you to be with someone, but figure out why you are atleast saying no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 07:51 PM |
| -2 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menAs in, its weird, it is something you would get judged for. You can not like pizza, but suddenly refusing an otherwise perfect person because you find out they like pizza would be weird, it affects you in no way... that person would probably be happy with never having pizza again while with you. So why does it matter if they like pizza or not? Do you see how silly it sounds to a bi person now when straight women say they dont want to date bi guys? It just seems illogical, like sure you can have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 07:02 PM |
| 2 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menRight but why... thats this whole discussion. Why do you feel that way, what beliefs do you have about bi people that dont also apply to straight people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 06:36 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi mengo for it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 06:34 PM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menits more like not wanting to date a guy because they like pizza, like sure yeah i guess? You can not want to date them but the belief is off. Then from there after being questioned why being they dont like guys that like pizza, her reasoning being because they're all fat and disgusting slobs... which is obviously not true in the slightest. It is an assumption based on a label about someone. You can have that belief if you want but you are going to get judged for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 06:33 PM |
| 9 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menSo you are straight... you like men... so why not bi men? Are they not men to you? It is clearly not because of your sexuality. Their physical features havent changed... or their personality. Its like losing attraction to someone because they ate a pizza 2 years ago.... like ???? you're going to get judged for that. Like give a good reason, actually give a reason why... because it just sounds like you onow its for bigoted reasons but really dont want the title of bigot... even if you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 06:22 PM |
| 6 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menNo one is expecting that... everyone is trying to get to the bottom of why that causes so many women to lose attraction when literally nothing has changed about the guy. You can just ignore it and say "i dont owe you a reason" but you at the very least must be able to admit to yourself the reason you wont is bigoted, you have blanketed an entire group of people with the same brush and thats why you get an ick. Literally why do you care what they have done woth their previous partners when they a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 06:06 PM |
| 3 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menwhy is it an ick? No one is trying to make women date bi men, everyone is just trying to point out the preferences are rooted in bigoted beliefs. Like let's get down to the root of it... why is gay sex an ick, but will you have the same ick if i said i did anal with a women previously? If not why not? Why is it different? Why does it matter what i have done with my previous partners either? You can be bi and never have done anything with a man too, why would you not date them then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Guys who struggle with dating show a common problem: Motivated reasoning.At some point the mods need to just mute them for a week to give them a mental break from it all and to do a welfare check. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/26 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Having good morals has never been implied to be sexually attractive.so what do women actually want in a partner? and seperately what do they find sexually attractive? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/26 09:38 PM |
| 0 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?If it fits best why is the ideal size given by women inches larger than it in both dimensions? While an average sized one can get the job done... that doesnt mean there is not a preference for slightly larger than average. If eating good food isnt as good as sex, you are not cooking the right kinda food. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/26 03:31 PM |
| 0 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?and the average preferences for size is above the average actual size... theres no shame in admitting that. Both in length and girth. Its not saying "bigger is always better" but that "above average is better". The same way most people would prefer a 12inch pizza over an 8inch because it will fill them up and leave them more satisfied... even if they would be fine with just an 8inch pizza. At the same time they wouldnt want a 20inch pizza because thats waaaay too much for the majority of people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/26 01:47 PM |
| -1 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?Then the argument becomes why have sizes at all? Why not only make 10" ones and just tell people to "just insert less"? Saves on needing multiple moulds, would be an awful lot cheaper to manufacture. If you say that's not true because of material cost then it makes sense to make the smallest size possible... It would be cheaper for them and cheaper for you to buy, so why do they not make smaller ones? I also highly doubt your first claim given the smallest sizes are usually 5" insertable and ref… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/26 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?I'm aware, still there are generally very few for smaller sizes regardless of how you shake it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/26 10:48 AM |
| 7 | Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis?When most "small" toys are the same sort of length as the average guy... sorta answers your question in terms of dildos. but consider most women use vibrators, because its an entirely different type of stimulation that's usually more intense and easier to reach. If you actually talk to women you will find that for most, who the penis is attached to matters a lot more than the penis itself. Taking away the person can require compensation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/26 09:50 AM |
| 2 | Do you feel as if you genuinely know what the majority of women want?For the off topic point, a woman talks with someone in the top 20%. The attention from someone who they consider high value makes them feel higher value themselves... but that guy is never going to settle with her. Even if she has convinced herself he will settle with her because she's different and special, otherwise he wouldnt be giving her this kind of attention and picked her over all these other women... he won't. No one sane thinks women are actively choosing to be passed around by the top… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/26 09:42 AM |
| – | What do you think about this look, and would it affect your dating perception?what are you even looking for from a post like this that you dont already know the genetal concensus for? You already got answers to all the questions even if the post was deleted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 09:46 PM |
| – | What do you think about this look, and would it affect your dating perception?Why is this being reposted again? You already got all the answers, im sorry if they were not what you were looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsRight but if the ONLY reason you are friends with someone is because you are trying to hookup then you are just doing it wrong. If you are friends that chat occasionally and you end up falling in love and want to date, that's fine. Thats perfectly okay... the issue is the former, the ones only in it for the sex and nothing else. Which was the comment i initially responded to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsgood lord i hope you reflect on this one day and realise how much of a jackass you look like... you just lie to them about your world views... to get a hookup or partner? damn, you are the reason why women dont like to date men anymore, good to finally meet you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 07:44 PM |
| 6 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsSo why would any women want to be with someone like you when you seem to not like anything about them other than what, looks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 07:22 PM |
| 4 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsso why cant you have women friends too? Like for what reason is it just incompatible for you? Like I will admit i'm bisexual, but i'm not attracted to every single person i meet, i have friends of both genders... i cant see why having a friend of the opposite gender is impossible for you, why do you see every women as a means to sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 07:05 PM |
| 6 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsIm starting to think you people are trying to actively miss the point. That advice is given to people who have ZERO friends who are women. The advice is given so men don't just see women as objects for their desire but as people who want to talk and chat too. Its given so people will actually try to get to know women before immediately trying to fuck them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 07:03 PM |
| 10 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsDo you want to fuck all your guy friends too? Theres nothing wrong with just being friends because you want to be friends... what is wrong with you people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 04:31 PM |
| – | What do you think of this look?There is a reason its not still "in fashion" to have a whale tail Definitely a crime against fashion at the very least and i don't think a majority of women will find it attractive if that's what you are getting at with this post. Id like to know what on gods green earth it has to do with purple pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsWomen prefer someone they know is a decent person, its the entire point of a "warm" approach. It is someone they know by name, have talked to before, and have spent time with in a social or group setting... thats what they are looking for. There is a middle ground. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 02:31 PM |
| 21 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsIf thats the only reason you are getting into friendships with women then yes, you should stop that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 02:26 PM |
| 4 | Apparently women prefer to be friends first, yet dread the moment a guy friend develops feelingsding ding ding, this exactly. Its fucking weird just to be friends with someone with the soul intent of getting laid. If that is your motive from the get go then you should be making that clear from the get go. If it develops over time its a little different but you should still make that clear when it does, because you are not seeing the relationship as just a friendship any more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 02:25 PM |
| – | Men have a harder time dating then women.If there's 10 women, are you attracted to 8 of them Chances are, I could be. So would be quite happy to get to know them better and allow that initial curiosity/attraction to develop further. I'd like to think 8/10 women are not ugly to the point they cannot be seen as attractive. I'd like to think that 8/10 women have interesting personalities, hobbies and aren't toxic to allow that initial attraction to develop beyond looks. So why are 80% of men ruled out from the get go, i know there are a l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/26 09:58 AM |
| 7 | The majority of men act in ways that encourage women's entitlement and narcissism.the question is how do you make the first happen? Im sure a lot of men just swipe right on everyone because to them its a numbers game, why should they pass up an opportunity that is rare in the first place? Which then feeds back around, more women get more likes, women raise their standards, its harder to be picky as a man, so more swipe right in hopes of finding anyone. How do we get everyone to break out of the cycle? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/26 12:16 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It’s valid to end a friendship if their dating success constantly reinforces your insecurities even if they did nothing wrongAlright you suck as a person and/or are ugly, we get it, stop whining like babies about it. If life is unfair then its unfair. Stop blaming everyone else for it. Either work with what you got and be very aware you are limited, try to improve yourself as a person how you can, or stop whining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/26 11:38 AM |
| 0 | CMV: It’s valid to end a friendship if their dating success constantly reinforces your insecurities even if they did nothing wrongYou can but you should seek out therapy if you actually want to fix your issues. The feelings wont go away and if anything will continue to get worse unless the roots of your insecurities are addressed. Speaking from experience, it will get worse if you isolate yourself from it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/26 10:03 PM |
| 5 | CMV: It’s valid to end a friendship if their dating success constantly reinforces your insecurities even if they did nothing wronglots of envy if i had to guess, combined with some self esteem issues for added spice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/26 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would it be crazy to ask men to be a bit more gay?You do this and women will ask you if youre gay and if we've learnt anything from the whole bisexual men discourse, that's not appealing to a majority of women. The reason a lot of men act the way they do, because that is what is the most appealing to the majority of single women, regardless of what everyones individual preferences are, thats the way it leans on average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/26 05:22 PM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.Yeah im done, i cba to copy paste on mobile, its a pain in the ass. Go reread your comments, especially the ones you made on this post if you actually want to see. I dont even know why im asking you to because you will just try to rebuttal it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 02:28 PM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.Im not trying to insult you, stop acting like i am trying to. Scroll up and you will see. You do it for most of your comments but it will take some introspection for you to see you are doing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 02:24 PM |
| 5 | Theres nothing wrong with porn, the industry is the problemNo??? Ask most women and they will give you an example of a time a man would put a hand around their neck start choking them during sex without asking... it's a very common thing in porn and thats why so many men think its normal and thats what women want. That is what i mean by mens perspectives on what to do during sex are being warped by porn That is what im trying to say, the whole consent and talking part is just missing, theres basically no communication in porn because its all scripted an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:20 PM |
| 4 | Theres nothing wrong with porn, the industry is the problemI never said anything bad about roughness? For me its the way it goes from complete stranger to fucking in 2.1 seconds... and it warps peoples perspectives on how to approach strangers and their expectations on how quickly they expect sex for doing basically nothing. I agree with you second paragraph. I do think however it would be beneficial if porn was more healthy and "realistic" (which includes BDSM etc.) rather than what a lot of the industry is where it is pure spectacle that warps peoples… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:15 PM |
| 7 | Theres nothing wrong with porn, the industry is the problemI think an issue is how it affects especially younger men who are still developing. It can give really bad perceptions on what sex is supposed to be like and how you are supposed to do things. A lot of that comes from failings of sexual education and the very very easy access to porn at a young age that can warp peoples perspectives on how to approach women, how to flirt and build up... like i theres a lot of porn where a guy goes up to a "random" attractive women with like $500 and "convinces" … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 11:42 AM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.A lot here arent because places like this attract people who are insecure and are looking for someone else to blame... but in real like most are genuinely good They dont choose to believe it, but its a lot easier to remember experiences that give you extreme negative feelings than those where you feel neautral. So ofcourse they are going to be biased that the negative thing happens more often than it does and that that is what all women must be like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 11:22 AM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.im not attacking your character, the problem is you always assume im attacking you when im not. You keep on throwing out really extreme versions of what people are saying in your counterpoints. Im going to give you an obvious example and analogy so hopefully you can see what i mean. I can say "most guys dont like blueberries" and you will go on to say "WOW MEN MUST HATE ALL FRUIT" and counter this made up point that "men must hate all fruit saying that men dont get to complain when women hate al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 11:20 AM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.Sometimes i feel like you are projecting your own insecurities with these posts and responses. I hope you feel more comfortable in your skin and can find someone that loves you for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 11:12 AM |
| 1 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.where are you pulling that from? your biased opinion or a source? Genuinely good ken dont care about those women, thats the problem you are having here, you are assuming all men are into those women... theyre not. Thats what they observe around them with a lense of confirmation bias, but no one said thats what they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 11:09 AM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.... by talking to them? By being flirty? You dont need to act super horny and obsessed, but if thats what you want to do no one is going to stop you. If anything acting super horny and obsessed will push a guy away from seeking an LTR. Also why do you think the only way for women to get a mans attention is by being "super horny and obsessed"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 08:13 AM |
| 14 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.The guy said "any signs to work with"... how did you get from that to wanting women to be "super horny and obsessed". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:53 AM |
| 2 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.For some it is, but that is the perspective. When i stopped dating for a while it was something i noticed though, all the women that were genuinely high value in personality with average to above average looks... rarely stay single for long, because they are good partners. I did read it, the question was kind of rhetorical, you clearly dont believe it... so why do you believe it with the genders reversed? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:39 AM |
| 1 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.read the last sentence | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/26 12:14 AM |
| 4 | If you want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.The reality is differently to what you are presenting its a fiction... but ill go along with it and try to give you the "guys" perspective here. The perspective is that all the sweet meeks are taken, or already know who they want to be with. They arent looking for people and if they are they are so quickly snatched up by the first person they run into (that is likely one of her backups), that i as the guy will never get the chance to he with them. I will never get the chance to show off my perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 11:44 PM |
| 1 | If your want your moral character to matter in dating, you have to also care about character in others.Is your entire belief here made upon that one video? You think every guy is like that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 11:33 PM |
| 0 | How do women know what about personality turns them on?what about it makes it inauthentic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 11:02 PM |
| 5 | How do women know what about personality turns them on?i feel it would be easier to work backwards with what you dont like or what set of traits completely rule someone out and what ones you are more flexible on. Even if its a set of traits, working together, what is apart of that set, what is your checklist so to speak for someone to be more likely to vibe with you vs not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 04:57 PM |
| 6 | How do women know what about personality turns them on?nerdy as in, hot guy with glasses | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: How would you vet another woman if you were looking for one to date?This is one of them things that feels like it should be common sense but apparently isn't. So its good to say regardless. Very good summary of things to look out for though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Alot of guys wish they can be assholes above reproach and worshipped. That's why they hate bad boys.The answer to that question is... a lot more mixed than i think you realise. A lot of guys would want and are with crazy and toxic women. They find that kind spice attractive and normal women to be dull, it goes both ways. I understand that a lot of women want confident men, but what they consider confident also goes against the "rules" the same kind of women set. So it insanely difficult to know ahead of time what you should do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/26 09:01 AM |
| 3 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveIf you don't like someone only because of the fact that they are bisexual and nothing else then by definition that is bigoted. So many women do it that bi men would rather save the stress and just lie because it makes ZERO difference to the relationship for the woman. Literally none, it makes no difference if ive been with a man before because im not with one now. So why not lie, why restrict yourself to 20% of the dating pool you had before? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 09:21 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveIf its not a game and people are mature, they wouldn't impose such bigoted rules on themselves about dating bi men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 08:42 PM |
| 3 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveI personally do not. I find both body count and judging people for being bi stupid. I do not understand why body count or someone being bi matters so much to people. People make such bold and vile assumptions about people based on these stereotypes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 04:44 PM |
| 5 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveYou assume im American, silly goose. You assume a lot, my points arent to make people shut up, nor am i liberal. You are not clever or smart, you are the exact same person you are trying to mock but with a different flag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 04:35 PM |
| 6 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveSo would you stop dating all straight guys because they may fantasise about other women that are physically nothing like you in ways you cant provide, or is it only a problem when its a man? Not every fantasy needs to become reality nor does it in actual relationships. You dont want gay sex in your bedroom... but where is the gay sex? They are your partner with you, a women, that is as straight as it gets, man and a women. They arent going to be thinking about men while with you. If you are goin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 03:12 PM |
| 2 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveYes, most bi men have adjusted by just not bringing it up or by lying. If people want to play silly games then they cant complain that thats how it is played. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 03:00 PM |
| 5 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveIt is so funny how little difference it will make to a relationship that bi men can say they are straight and you wont notice a difference. Simply saying "yeah im bi" suddenly killing off 80% of your possible partners even though it would make literally ZERO difference to them will fuck with your self esteem, why wouldnt it mess with how you think about yourself. If the number of potential partners you could be with got cut by that much because you said "i like eating pizza" you would quickly st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 02:46 PM |
| – | Men need to come up with an alternative to marriage.i mean... you dont need to get married if thats what you want to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 12:31 PM |
| 4 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they havebecause why does it matter? If they said they were straight you wouldnt have cared, so why does it matter if theyre bi other than for reasons that are blatantly homophobic. Genuinely explain why it matters that. It's not like theyre gay and not into women at all. If you would be with them if they were straight but not if they are bi, then its straight up biphobic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 12:25 PM |
| 9 | A lot of women reject bisexual men because femininity is the only leverage they think they haveand why do you not want that. Why does it matter to you? Genuinely take some time to think about it, dont just brush it off as a preference, think about why you care so much that a guy who is into you and only you, has previously been into men too. Deep down its biphobia, like it or not that is what it is. What you are saying is like saying "im not racist i have lots of black friends" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 12:21 PM |
| 12 | Alot of guys wish they can be assholes above reproach and worshipped. That's why they hate bad boys.Im not jealous of bad boys, im annoyed at the fact it works so well, annoyed at the fact i feel lied to. You can do everything that women say they want and get literally no where with no real interest. So you decide fuck it i will try something else, i will try what is clearly working for the people around me... only to find out that it works so well it is like that is what women wanted the entire time. It is disheartening to feel like ive been lied to, that i have spent my entire life trying to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 06:14 AM |
| 5 | Having women as friend makes your dating life significantly easier as a manhow did you go from A to B here... You can have friends who are women and it not help you with dating... even if you werent friends with the women to get help with dating... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 05:19 PM |
| – | Women of Reddit, I genuinely want to understand something about long-term relationships from your perspective.So you would fuck anything? You have no standards? You never grew out of it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 05:01 PM |
| – | Women of Reddit, I genuinely want to understand something about long-term relationships from your perspective.the same could be said about young men, just chasing validation and hookups because thats what means you're atteactive and cool, with most growing out of it eventually (even if that takes 10 more years). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Having women as friend makes your dating life significantly easier as a manYou can say its changing, but my experiences are recent and numerous. It is still a large number of women. Maybe in 10 years it will be different, but here and now it is true. I personally hope it does change, but based on everything i read online i didnt think it would exist as much as it does in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Having women as friend makes your dating life significantly easier as a manThere is a larger tolerance for disrespect and overstepping lines at least in my experience, as long as its not too far overboard obviously. Also the amount of women I've seen let themselves just get used as toys is higher than i personally feel comfortable with. It feels so wild and backwards to see after all the advice about respect and not treating women like objects for fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 03:54 PM |
| 4 | Having women as friend makes your dating life significantly easier as a manI agree, but i found amusingly the opposite to be true if you are looking for hookups. I'd rather not know why doing that worked so much better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Having women as friend makes your dating life significantly easier as a manMy experience with this has been indifferent, so i disagree with your suggestion that it makes it significantly easier. I think it will help give you a good perspective on what some women want... but you can also fall into the trap where other women will assume you are the "gay" friend even if you are not. The issue i personally find is that the women i am friends with are not the same kind of people as the ones i would like to date, so their advice on how to to look only applies really to what … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 03:33 PM |
| – | Online dating and social media isnt that bad. People have to want to socialize.IRL dating is going well (especially dating events)... its just the case that OLD is easier and more convenient. You dont need to dress up and get ready for every event you can just sit in bed in your PJs and swipe through 50 people, you get the luxury of letting a message settle and rewritting your responses before you send it, you can put your best pictures up and spend as long as you want thinking of a fun bio. I will agree however that people have to want to socialise, which they dont. Most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 06:16 AM |
| – | Men should also wear wigs, height boosters , normal makeup etcif its that little that they won't notice... then they wont notice in the first place. Like no one cares if youre 5'9 or 5'10, it is pointless. Just get your eyebrows done, take care of your skin, get in shape and you are good to go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/26 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Do you like someone more when they're exceptional at things you're deficient in, or when they're similar at things you're exceptional in?there are certain traits where id prefer they were similar and others where im indifferent. For example if i prefer to keep things tidy i dont really want to be with someone who keeps making a mess and completely draining me... but i also know how to cook well, and i dont mind if my partner doesnt know how to cook to the same level or better. It really changes trait to trait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/26 03:35 PM |
| 6 | Most men give their attention so freely to women that it doesn't mean anything to them anymore.My opinion is that its more of a sliding scale than just black or white. With that said i think everyone is born with a baseline and a range. Lots of guys could improve themselves, there are lots of 5/10s that could be 7/10 if they put in the effort, but they will never be 10/10 no matter what they do. Yes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 07:34 AM |
| 6 | Most men give their attention so freely to women that it doesn't mean anything to them anymore.This is something i wish all women could experience for a month, but theres always excuses as to why they can't try it. I can say from experience as a more feminine presenting bi guy, the side where you have all the attention (both good and bad) and can be picky is 1000x better than just... nothing... for weeks, only to get matched with someone who puts no effort into the conversation and makes you play court jester because theyre bored. One side will make you go "ugh men" occasionally, the othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 07:13 AM |
| 6 | Most men give their attention so freely to women that it doesn't mean anything to them anymore.Some lesbian women struggle a lot with women too. Some are just as picky while others have an experience closer to what men have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 07:08 AM |
| 2 | Even men think men are the problemI never said i did, but thats not the numbers they were showing for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:34 PM |
| 4 | Red pill failed menso everyone has a different definition for everything, why bother at all with this argument here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Even men think men are the problemfair enough then, you have convinced me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Red pill failed menIt didnt, but that's the foundation of it. The fact that you can work your way up if you put in the time and effort to change yourself and stop being a lazy bum blaming the world for all your problems. So why would anyone want to be bluepill? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:16 PM |
| 4 | Red pill failed menIt is built around the core idea that if you want to date a women that is hugh value, you should also work to be high value physically, financially, interpersonally, and socially... i literally said this a few comments ago and you dismissed it. What does blue pill offer thats not just anti-redpill? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:13 PM |
| 4 | Red pill failed menim not subscribed to it, its the reason i dont have a redpill tag. I never said people arent capable of going to the gym without it. Im just of the belief that there should be a perspective that you men especially should better themselves and work towards being fitter more well rounded people. Its why i dont really gel well with bluepill either which seems to just be anti-redpill on everything and anything rather than a more positive response focusing on actually being a place to help men improv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:08 PM |
| 4 | Even men think men are the problemright but victims from who. What do your numbers say in regards to that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 05:04 PM |
| 17 | Even men think men are the problemThere are a lot of bad people out there, no one believes that all men are evil and all women are saints unless they are delusional. On average, women are more vulnerable to men due to physical characteristics. That isn't saying men cant be hurt by women, just that on average it happens to women from men a lot more than the other way around. I know i as a smaller person am more cautious of someone who is much larger and could do more physical harm to me than someone of a similar size. That is gen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Red pill failed menA) not really, its from the matrix and was used by lots of groups. The core is seeing what society really is, and in the dating context its realising the 10/10 women is only going to want to date you if you are a 10/10 man through a number of different avenues. Its that simple. B) You dont have to agree with everything someone says just because they say they fall under the same banner. Im sure you dont agree with everything everyone with the bluepill tag says here, i know i dont agree with every… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Red pill failed menPUA is not what redpill is fundamentally about, they use it maliciously, usually to make money off idiots, but that does not mean at its core redpill is bad or useless. I think promoting men to be better is a good thing. I think its better than just saying "you will eventually find your person" to people who on the most basic level should improve and lack basic social skills and fitness. I dont agree with the extreme stuff or the grifters but they can only use redpill because at a basic level it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 02:57 PM |
| 1 | If sex isn’t something to be ashamed of, then don’t hide your desires for it.I mean i can handle it, if thats what most women wanted (being forward and direct about desires) , that is what inwould do... but the reality is most don't want it to be so rushed, so its been socially accepted to take it slower and flirt to show your attraction and desire of them, instead of just friendliness. I did come into your post, i just gave you a summary of what i thought it was and asked you to clarify what your points are to ensure we are both on the same page here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Red pill failed menRight but you said they were redpill, the whole core of redpill is improving your value to be with higher value partners. Its about more than just going to the gym. Redpill is about improving to match what you want, bluepill is about settling for what you are, and that you can still end up with someone mich higher value than you anyway. Am i wrong in saying that? They stopped following redpill because they improved physically, financially, interpersonally, and/or socially and got a gf, they didn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 02:46 PM |
| -1 | If sex isn’t something to be ashamed of, then don’t hide your desires for it.your entire post is about being forward and open about your desires i think. It's honestly hard to tell what your post is really about, recently they have been devolving into incoherent rambles. Summarize your point in say 3 sentences, like directly the point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Red pill failed menYou didnt read. I made an analogy using the gym as an example of moderate and extreme views, how it can be good and useful in moderation. To which you said "yeah going to the gym will help, thats not redpill advice". So you didnt read that properly or just straight up didnt understand it. When i said "complete it" i meant in terms of completing redpill, the context is obvious if you read the whole thing. So why on gods green earth you thought i meant completing a relationship and arguing against… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 02:25 PM |
| -1 | If sex isn’t something to be ashamed of, then don’t hide your desires for it.I never said honesty is weird, i just said there needs to be a balance with how forward you are about your honesty. You are intentionally being obtuse to the point i am making then going off about something completely different. Do you go up to every ugly person you meet and tell them that they are ugly? It would be hoenst to tell them what you truly think... but you don't do you, why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 02:07 PM |
| 1 | If sex isn’t something to be ashamed of, then don’t hide your desires for it.So if you go to the bar looking for a hookup the first thing you will say to a very attractive stranger that comes up to you is "please fuck my brains out and let me have your babies"? A bit odd but if that works for you sure. In my opinion there is a middle ground which is flirting... its the entire point of flirting. I think sexual compatibility is important for a long term relationship, go look at the deadbedroom subreddits if you don't think it matters. I'd personally be happy to wait and no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 01:52 PM |
| 0 | Red pill failed menim not even going to bother, you just cant read so what is the point of trying to debate with you. if you cant even read what im saying before responding then you are not arguing in good faith, you are just pushing against what you think im saying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 01:43 PM |
| 0 | Red pill failed menTry reading the comment before replying perhaps??? I dont think they abandon it, moreso have completed it. They can sustain what they are doing without needing to interact with the community because they have taken all the advice they needed and implemented it to clearly great success. It is as simple as setting people on the right path. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Red pill failed menThe fact they got girlfriends would indicate to some degree that it works well if you dont buy into the bullshit parts of it. The ones that were sane on not looking for excuses improved themselves and got partners, the ones who were just looking for someone to blame without improving themseleves were left behind and have hijacked the movement. Its like going to the gym, if you're going to improve your health and strength its great and you will get a lot out of it... but if you are just looking f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 01:10 PM |
| -1 | A man who can effortlessly get sex is exalted. A man who desires to have sex but is unsuccessful is seen as "entitled "Theres two sides to the coin, either you wait until you find someone that is interested in you for being you... or work on improving and changing yourself to become interesting to and desired by the people you are interested in. What path you want to go down is up to you, but the sad reality of the situation is that it's not changing anytime soon. The first guy isnt entitled to any of it either but still gets it, why is that? Ask yourself what is the difference between the two men you talk about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 11:17 AM |
| – | Many women say they prefer "friends first" approach while dread a the moment a guy friend develops feelingsone women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 08:53 AM |
| – | Women Can't Be "Used" For Sex If They Consented. That's Feminist Victim Mentality Rhetoric.Is it though? because 9/10 times it will be the man initiating it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 08:17 AM |
| 0 | SAHMs should Unionizemaybe that should be brought back | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 08:13 AM |
| – | Women Can't Be "Used" For Sex If They Consented. That's Feminist Victim Mentality Rhetoric.Right but most times its not like that. If the guy didnt care about the dates and was just using them to get sex without actually caring about the womens feelings then yes, they were using the women for sex by definition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 08:12 AM |
| – | Women Can't Be "Used" For Sex If They Consented. That's Feminist Victim Mentality Rhetoric.Right but in this case there was a relation prior, trust was built but it turned out to all be a manipulative long con. The same applies to men who convince the women they will be in a long term relationship then dip as soon as they get sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 08:05 AM |
| – | Women Can't Be "Used" For Sex If They Consented. That's Feminist Victim Mentality Rhetoric.Heres an exmaple If i said, here if million bucks, you can have it if you move my special rock from one side of the country to the other for me... all agreed, you've seen the million bucks, everyones happy with the arrangement, youve moved a bunch of rocks little distances for the guy before so you trust them. So you spend all your time and energy move that rock all the way across the country to make this guy happy by doing what they want. Then at the end, they take the special rock off your han… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 07:58 AM |
| – | Many women say they prefer "friends first" approach while dread a the moment a guy friend develops feelingsThe balance is usually a few weeks/months and making your intentions clear from the get go. Not saying "yeah i only want to be friends and not date"... then in a year have feeling and start trying to date. The second is setting a boundary then crossing it, which is the part that makes people feel lied to, used and betrayed. The whole friends first thing is to see if you are actually fun and enjoyable to be around and talk to when you're not blinded madly by love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 07:43 AM |
| 1 | SAHMs should Unionizenot really, the systems will adjust to account for it and it will be the same old same old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 07:36 AM |
| 3 | SAHMs should UnionizeThis reminds me of Mrs. Watanabe, where lots of japanese housewives and SAHMs on the early 2000s were investing heavily into the stockmarket in their free time to increase their households wealth. They did so because they were the ones who controlled the households finances in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/26 07:33 AM |
| 3 | Most men aren’t “nice guys”Right, but im going against every ounce of common advice given to men. I'm being manipulative and pushy, even if they initially resist i try again and they give in. It just feels wrong to treat someone like a toy. I'd rather get to know them properly and build up from there, for me genuine attraction is more than just looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Most men aren’t “nice guys”yes, i already said so? In the same way i could just go scam a bunch of vulnerable people and make 10x my current salary... i don't, because it would feel shitty to do, i would feel shame and guilt. With that said some people dont have that kind of shame or guilt, so they do it without a care and will keep doing it for as long as they can. Does that make sense? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Most men aren’t “nice guys”I stopped asking and being nice. I stopped caring, i started to just tell them, this is what we are doing. I stopped caring what they wanted and was just indulgently selfish like i see other guys I would just put an arm around their waist and pull them close instead of asking if they were comfortable with me doing it. I stopped caring if they care and just started doing. Instead of saying would you like to get a drink, i would tell them we are getting a drink together and to come with me, pullin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 02:42 PM |
| 5 | Most men aren’t “nice guys”Speaking from experience, i did try it and i found significantly more success being an asshole who just wouldn't care much about them. I stopped doing it because it felt shitty to do even if it did work. I would rather be kind respectful and take my time to get to know them instead of trying to make out within an hour of meeting them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 02:19 PM |
| – | Contrary to stereotypes, older women are often much kinder, sluttier and less entitled than younger and same-aged womensuch as? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 02:16 PM |
| – | Contrary to stereotypes, older women are often much kinder, sluttier and less entitled than younger and same-aged womenit literally changes women to women. What is your basis for "often", any data or just personal experience? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 02:12 PM |
| 6 | Most men aren’t “nice guys”you are speaking for yourself, you might be self critical and respectful but that doesn't mean the guys people here are talking about are. While if you dont put the effort in clearly you arent entitled to anything... you arent entitled to having a women just because you work out regularly and look good either. Unfortunately lots of guys like that do feel entitled because they put in a bit of effort and go to the gym a few days a week. I have a fair few friends who are women, if you saw the types… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 01:46 PM |
| – | Immediate disqualifying factors are viewed as something negative by the person disqualifyingI think the why is critically important for a lot of thing. If you make a lot of money and want to date someone with a lot of money, and would rather not date someone with much less money because the power imbalance is awkward... it doesnt mean they directly view someone not having money is bad, they just dont feel confortable with the power imbalance it brings. On the other hand Bisexuality is a big one for me, a lot of women can't explain why they'd date a straight man but not a bisexual one w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 12:45 PM |
| 15 | The Red Pill is great strategy just to for dating.I think the core beliefs of RP are pretty solid and hold true. The "if you want higher value/attractive partner, you need to improve yourself and be high value/attractive too" part. With that said there are obviously a lot of grifters who take this pinch of truth that makes sense and manipulate it for their own financial gain. There is an extreme that is too far which you have pointed out but there is thay extreme with most beliefs. Im going to use religion as an example of this, look at christi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 12:29 PM |
| 0 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicMany men aren't in it for sex too. If you'reonly swiping on hot guys with no bio and shocked to find they only care about sex then I can't help you. I have experienced it, i am giving my personal experience here. I also find it incredibly insulting for you to say i dont care about crippling loneliness, for literally no reason, when it is something that deeply affected my life for a long stretch of time. I could say the exact same thing about women, all the women i try to talk to couldnt care les… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 10:49 PM |
| 2 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicIts not that bad compared to feeling the crippling loneliness setting in. It is a great motivator though to be active and try. I never bad any issues with being unmotivated, i enjoyed a lot of the conversations even if they were not going to lead to anything long term, not every conversation is sexual. oh this guy is being way to horny and needy oh well next guy will probably be better. Its a lot nicer being able to pick and choose over... nothing, its that simple. Women can be unmotivated by th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 10:13 PM |
| 2 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicI'm very aware yes. Gay men are just as needy and horny if not more. What point are you trying to make? That men only want sex so its harder to filter through for people that want an LTR? Not really. Its still the easier side to be on, youve already got over the biggest hurdle for the other side, you can literally pick and choose. If someone isn't giving the right signals for what you want, you can just say "sorry im looking for something else out of this" and move onto the next guy. On the othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 09:54 PM |
| 1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicIn most ways yes. They in most cases actually put some effort into talking and it makes conversations much easier and waaaaay more enjoyable. It is just easier, less stressful, and more enjoyable. Why wouldnt that be preferred? You want a partner that is dull boring and a headache? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 09:47 PM |
| 1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicRight, which is why i think its silly to say only women find it attractive when a person of the opposite gender initiates. Its just blatantly not true. Its why i disagree. You could list 100 guys that find it makes no difference and i could list 100 guys where to them it makes a big difference. That is how the world works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 09:43 PM |
| 1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicRight but you are talking about the top 1% of men by your own admission. Just because they prefer doing that doesnt mean every guy does or thinks that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 09:38 PM |
| 2 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicI agreed that it was more common, not that it is every man. If its 60% of men its more common, but there is still a decent portion of men that dont believe so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:49 PM |
| 1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicBig city nightlife generally attracts the kind of women that are into it from my experience. Unfortunately outside of that there's not bundles of opportunities to meet women as someone who doesn't want to use the apps I prefer being kind and respectful without pushing boundaries much but i kept getting called/asked if was gay. So i flipped and tried the other side for a while and it works shockingly well just being an disrespectful and pushy asshole. Where ever you are is where id prefer to be ;… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:47 PM |
| 0 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicThe same is true for me and a number of men i know at least. Maybe not all men but a decent portion. If i see a photo of a hot women i don't instantly go AWOOOOOGA ME WANT FUCK SEX AWOOOOGA, it stops at "ooo they're hot" and i think nothing more of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:40 PM |
| 2 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicAs much as i would like to say you are wrong... i have tried myself and it genuinely works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:28 PM |
| 4 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicwhat traits in men do you find sexually attractive that aren't related to their looks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:19 PM |
| -1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicProbably is more common. Women will complain, you will have the same view anyway, and it will more likely than not work for you all regardless. What a lovely world to live in huh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:18 PM |
| 3 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicI'm very aware of how much caution it takes. I used to be 120lb soaking wet and i am short, I have experienced exactly what can happen because i chose the wrong kind of person. I still firmly believe being the person filtering is the easier of the two options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:14 PM |
| 3 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicspeak for yourself man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 07:05 PM |
| 3 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicIn my experience its easier. Maybe not easy, but its definitely easier. I'm saying that as a smaller bi guy that was on the more feminine side, i got a lot of attention from men, and it was significantly easier filtering through for what i wanted compared to being the one filtered through. It still took effort and energy with a touch of caution, but it feels like nothing compared to being the one needing to initiate every time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 06:54 PM |
| 4 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicWhile a man may appreciate it from a woman, it does not fundamentally impact his attraction to her. I heavily disagree with this, it can make a women considerably more attractive when they initiate in the exact same way women think it makes men more attractive. Someone i wouldnt have considered attractive if they were being passive can completely change that view if they try to initiate. We have the same view but men are the ones expected to initiate because that was what we were taught... so we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/26 06:47 PM |
| 1 | So am I just gay now?hey Lilith, what excuse it will be this time for OP being single and unable to attract interesting women ;D or is it just the standard experience that you so much refuse to experience for yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:11 PM |
| 1 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.My quantity increased after I got my account boosted, because that’s typically what dating apps will do in exchange of you giving them money. Also, being verified lets more people trust your account so they don’t think your account is fake. You guys want to complain about not doing well, but you do nothing to do well. You’re just mad you don’t merely exist and 100 people want you immediately. Yeah, 10x zero is still 0, it doesn't matter if more women see your account if they still don't care to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 06:01 PM |
| 1 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.I’m verified and I have paid money to boost my account, it made a world of difference. BECAUSE YOU ARE A WOMAN. Jeez this is what I'm saying, you have literally no clue the difference it makes for guys which is practically 0. You are commenting on topics you have no perspective over and surprised when people disagree with you so adamantly. Find a guy friend and do it with them, get on an app they dont use and verify and whatever else and try it. Im sure you have plenty of guy friends and I'm sur… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 05:07 PM |
| 3 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.Its always something with you and i promise you, being verified and paying money make practically no difference. If you are so good at it you should be able to attract women without needing to do all of that stuff... or are you saying unless men pay money on dating apps they will not succeed? Just try it, just damn try it, stop coming up with excuses, mention it as a note that your account wasnt verified and you didnt pay... but you can still do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 04:56 PM |
| 2 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.oh just do it yourself will you, im tired of the complaining. This is why i said to do it yourself, tell us how it goes, record it if you feel so inclined to. Show us how its done, be the shining light of real truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 04:42 PM |
| 4 | What are your standards for a hookupI think theirs definitely a grey area, it isnt black and white. Lots of things are legal but still fucking weird and creepy. If you have ever met any 18 year old man you know full well they are not fully capable of making adult decisions. Have you ever been to college? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:26 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookupEh its pointless arguing, this kind of post is just not fit for the sub. It is clearly just ragebait on OPs behalf atleast. The answers in discussion are all personal to each individual so what is their to gain from this type of post? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:24 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookupthis has to be rage bait T~T girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:23 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookupThe issue is its not a debate, its just a question. explain how this is a debate... genuinely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:20 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookuprule 3 and 8? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:19 PM |
| 3 | What are your standards for a hookupcrazy how 12 months of age difference completely changes the picture for you tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:17 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookupmaybe go ask your doctor for some new meds. I'm not gonna get anymore involved in this post lmao. The mods not taking it down is ridiculous it has nothing to do with this sub and breaks several rules | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:15 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookuprage baiting for funsies :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:13 PM |
| 4 | What are your standards for a hookupehhh idk targetting people who have just turned 18 and are virgins seems like grooming to me, it is purposefully edging the line... and thats only what they are admitting on a public forum remember | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:13 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookupyou really dont, this post is ragebait, you dont need to convince me more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:12 PM |
| 2 | What are your standards for a hookupThey're 33 going for 18-20 year olds who are virgins. When asked if aim a little older, say 24-26, their exact words were "Nah better younger" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:10 PM |
| 1 | What are your standards for a hookupsince we are doing this again... Assuming you are American among other things but who cares it's an educated guess. The population of the US men aged 18-20: ~13,000,000 Previous + 6'0 or above: ~1,300,000 (10% of population) Previous + with a dick 7" or bigger: ~13,000 (1% of the previous) Previous + are attractive: ~3250 (1 in 4 men, generously) Previous + are virgins/low n: ~1,625 (~50% VERY GENEROUS for this type of person) Previous + not selfish in sex: ~1,218 (75% Optimistic for this type o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 02:08 PM |
| 14 | Red pill should go to therapy to learn how to listen.If it was as simple as just listening and treating women exactly how they say they want tocbe treated... you get no where, you get nothing. For the longest time i believed exactly what you were saying, then i got into the real world and realised wait a minute none of this is working. I then decided to go against my better judgement, push the feelings of guilt to the side and try being that asshole you hear redpillers complain about... and it worked, it works so well and i hated myself for the fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/26 12:25 PM |
| 15 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.I cant wait to see why this one isnt valid. How they still made a mistake. OP really refuses to see the other side, its less of a debate and more them wanting to argue about fantasy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:46 PM |
| 6 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.literally a guy... not every guy. Show us how its done, show us what the perfect profile looks like if you have average looks. Instead of bitching that we are so bad without actually helping, show us how its done. You want us to improve, show us how. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:23 PM |
| 5 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.They do it all the time with every comment on every post they make. You'll get used to it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:02 PM |
| 14 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.You are assuming all men that cant find a date are complete hopeless slobs or have unrealistically silly standards and that it must be their fault. So try it yourself. You cant blame anyone for making mistakes then, you can do it perfectly and show all men how its done from your own experience. I cant be bothered looking for a shitty video from a dating guru, id rather get it from you since you are so wise with such good perspective on what women want. Try being a man online, show us how easy li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 08:52 PM |
| 1 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.You are assuming all men that cant find a date are complete hopeless slobs or have unrealistically silly standards and that it must be their fault. So try it yourself. You cant blame anyone for making mistakes then, you can do it perfectly and show all men how its done from your own experience. Why cant you do that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 08:51 PM |
| 20 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.Try. it. Show us all how its done, present your evidence, then this kind of post will have actual merit. You seem to think men are the problem constantly, so actually try it. It should be easy for you to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 08:38 PM |
| 27 | "Some men aren't given the opportunity to show off their personality" is a victim narrative myth and a red flag.Its bold making this claim while never having experienced it from the other side. I'd genuinely love for women to get the standard dating app experience a majority of men get. On a dating app of your choice, set up an account as a guy, use pictures of someone who takes care of themselves but isn't inherently attractive, someone average, and see how well you do. Be you but with a different face basically, hell do it with one of your male friends and see how it goes for you. See how much opportuni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 07:49 PM |
| 4 | Men nowadays want babies to grow up in paid carespeaking the truuuuth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 09:49 AM |
| 4 | A man without female friends is a red flagWhat if i have female friends but that only reinforces the negative things? I got told in another post by a woman that all my girl friends are shallow and stupid. Which as much as i disagreed with them... they were kind of right. They're not as interesting or fun as my make friends, they are more superficial and more dull to talk to with an overreliance on their attractiveness. I still like them as friends and respect them and would fight for them, but they are who they are. As much as i really … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 08:37 AM |
| 2 | On Double Standards and the Problem of Male Sluts at the Gymor we can push for people to stop slut shaming in general unless its genuinely perverted and lewd behaviour (i.e no clothes at all in a public space) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 08:24 AM |
| – | what preferences are women allowed to have?Is it not the same way where men have high standards, they want women to look perfect and dolled up, but will go out with any girl that gives them attention? The standard is high but everyone is an exception | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 07:09 AM |
| – | More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contemptOP hasn't met any adult women recently by the sounds of it. The only ones i have met that dont know how to do all of that were teens in college and even then there are far more men that didnt know how to take care of themselves or their living space at that age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/26 06:57 AM |
| 7 | why aren’t men happier about the fact that they can improve themselves to be more likeable to women?I'm fitter but so what, it's not like im a professional athlete, I have a regular desk job. I don't have a single need to be in as good of a physical state as im in other than to be more attractive. I didnt eat like shit before, i wasn't unhealthy, i had a bit of tummy fat, not that muscular, just average desk job worker. I wasnt unfit before i put in all of this effort, i just wasn't attractive physically. Literally what benefit is there to being able to lift 220lb vs only being able to lift 12… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:28 PM |
| 8 | why aren’t men happier about the fact that they can improve themselves to be more likeable to women?I put the effort in, and i wish i didn't honestly, i wish i had the days of my life back to spend doing things i genuinely enjoyed instead of working so hard to "improve myself" for nothing. I haven't seen a single benefit from doing so physically, financially, or socially. If anything i would be in a genuinely better position if i just didn't bother. As you said, success isn't guaranteed, but neither is failure. You can do everything wrong and still get good outcomes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:14 PM |
| 8 | why aren’t men happier about the fact that they can improve themselves to be more likeable to women?no, but they will have plenty of choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:00 PM |
| 4 | why aren’t men happier about the fact that they can improve themselves to be more likeable to women?so its pot luck, why bother putting in the effort? Why not save the energy and spend your time doing things you enjoy doing, rather than waste it for a "nothing is garunteed" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 08:52 PM |
| 15 | why aren’t men happier about the fact that they can improve themselves to be more likeable to women?"just try harder" very good joke | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Why are so many men so opposed to the idea they might need to self improve to get a partner?I thought womens beauty standards were really high and men only want women with big tits and a nice ass? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 08:31 PM |
| 13 | Guys need to ask themselves what value they bring to others.read the whole comment. I agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Assuming women are unattracted to most men, can we really be blamed for lack of attraction?big generalisations there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 04:14 PM |
| 23 | Guys need to ask themselves what value they bring to others.What is the debate here actually supposed to be about, you are just making a statement. Like yeah, duh, everyone knows this... some might not want to accept it because it hurts to admit but we all know it's true and how the world works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Assuming women are unattracted to most men, can we really be blamed for lack of attraction?The same applies to women, wonen should settle for someone in their league and not whatever top10% guy they think they deserve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 06:42 AM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.Well im sorry to hear, it should not be that bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 10:24 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.The fact it really isnt that god damn hard to give a women an orgasm jeez. If you are even remotely trying and communicating then you should be able to atleast 8 times out of 10. What are you people even doing that you can't??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 10:01 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.Right, but it will be significantly more often than 1/3 of the time still. It literally cannot be worse. It is easy to tell when a guy wont treat you right, i can say that much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 09:57 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.If you can't guide a guy to making you orgasm, that's a communication issue honestly. kind and genuine means they are likely to accept the advice you give and improve without being a dick about it. why is that so hard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 09:05 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.duh, but most men cant accept that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 09:03 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I mean i know how it works, I'm attractive and bi, i get the same kind of attention that women do. I know how the game is played by both sides unfortunately well. It is only a game of "entertain me" because women want it to be, not because it inherently is that way. I dont make men jump through silly hoops for my attention. Both sides can have fun if both put a little effort into it but that effort just isnt there from most women because they get so spoiled with attention that they don't care th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 07:14 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.you are strange, i hope you find peace and meet some real people one day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:46 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.So men just have to be the toy doing all the work for a chance? But if they have to do the work suddenly they're bored and write you out. what joyful equality aye? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:45 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.So women should never hookup with guys is your opinion? No sex outside of established well built relationships, even if they want to... or theyre stupid and shallow. Starting to sound like you hate women tbh. Women shouldn't be allowed to make their own decisions and take risks, they need to keep themsleves safe, yeah you're right, why not keep going with that ideology, they should just stay at home all the time so no men can kidnap and rape them, we wouldnt want them going out and getting hurt … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:42 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.They are not generally shallow, they are only that way when it comes to casual hookups because of how much easier it is for them to get with an attractive guy they wouldnt consider for an LTR. but you are talking about the ones that do. It is so low because they are just going "fuck it im just going to get with the most attractive guy i can for the night". You tell me why they do other than that, how do you know they don't repeat it or are all the women you know stupid and unable to pick a good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:33 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.Accepting it means accepting you are just not attractive enough. That is difficult for everyone men and women alike. It hurts to accept you arent good looking, and that you will not be good looking enough even if you do everything right. It is something you cant control, and it hurts to have your ego hit like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:29 PM |
| 5 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.You can tell if someone is kind and genuine or just faking it to sleep with you. You will have atleast talked a little bit, you can get a general idea. Youre not just hooking up immediately without ever talking. You can see how they bahave and act, if they ask for permission, how they flirt. It is not difficult. If they listen to you when you tell them what you like and dont like is a big one too, if they can follow your requests then woohoo they can listen to what you want in bed and make you f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:27 PM |
| 1 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.Alright then, all women must be stupid and shallow all the time, you must have never liked someone for their looks, how dare you think someone is hot. How dare you ever take any risks You decided to drive to work??? STUPID, you could have DIED, you're so stupid. That makes me sound super sane doesn't it. Im sorry but thats how the world works for women who casually hook up on a regular basis. They go out find someone hot and hookup with them. Go out into the real world will you, see what things … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:22 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I'm not saying any that, and i agree with you on everything you just said. I'm asking why do you think they dont deserve to feel like they are desired? Why do women get to enjoy it whenever they want to but men don't, what is the difference? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 06:08 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.Im framing it in the sense of "value" where in this case value is attractiveness... because that is one of the most important things for a casual hookup for both men AND women, thay is why they want to have sex, its not because a deep romantic and sexual connection built over years of trust. Am i wrong? Its an analogy anyway, dont take it so literally. I can frame it a different way if you like but its still the same argument. I will also ask you the question, do you think ugly women dont deserv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 05:51 PM |
| 7 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.That comes off as very black-pill no? Just telling people to completely give up, that they don't get to have any casual sexual attention. That's for women and hot guys only, sorry loser <3 Do you not see that perspective? Why that can be hard to accept as reality, why it may sting and cause men pain? Do you deserve $1,000,000? No, but you would like $1,000,000, especially if you see it being handed out like candy to other people who aren't even that much better than you. It would make you upset … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 05:36 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.Its not a coincidence everytime you guys talk about women, she’s always shallow, fickle, and stupid. Looking in my circles i know these women are not shallow, fickle, and stupid... but when it comes to hookups and quick flings they are willing to be significantly more superficial and open to the idea of just hooking up with an attractive guy for a night for fun, because why not? They're hot, it'll be fun to say "i hooked up with this hot guy, look at the pics of them, they're so attractive". Saf… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 05:19 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I'm personally curious to know what the value propositions actually are, is it a comfortable balance of reasonable expectations or if it can be completely overruled by having lots of one thing (i.e looks, money, charm). What can a man realistically bring to the table that will be appreciated if they're not in the top say 10% for any of these. If they're just completely average in every way going after completely average women, why do they struggle, what do women have that is so valuable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 04:52 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.They already do blindly trust men they dont know if they are attractive enough, what world are you living in where that doesn't happen? Have you ever been outside socially in the evening??? If women aren't casually hooking up then where are they getting the statistics from, where are these women meeting people, how are they consistently getting with such awful guys if theyre so picky and cautious, why do they keep doing it if its so awful? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:49 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.No? I already do because it needs to be said, i don't need you to tell me to do it. I was making an argument for arguments sake as i said in that comment. You can debate and disagree with the argument, but dont argue at me like I'm personally the problem here or that i even agree with the point in the first place. We both agree with eachother that everyone should be criticised for their poor decisions, regardless of gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:35 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I already try to but i dont know every man alive, what are you getting at here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:27 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.dont have many but i do already :D | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:22 PM |
| 2 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.already do, i dont have issues with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:20 PM |
| 5 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.To survive yes, but life without it is a lot less fulfilling if you have normal hormonal cycles. It is normal to want to have sex, that is quite literally human nature for most individuals. The same way you can survive being completely isolated for a year, but you won't come out the other end completely right in the head. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:16 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I agree in an ideal world everyone should, its what i do myself... but people get desperate when they run out of options, and most men have far fewer options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 03:07 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I agree honestly. and just for the sake of argument, you also have to consider the difference in choice volume. In terms of finding a hookup, men dont usually get many options to choose from when looking for women unless they are that top 1%, while women get a literal overwhelming amount of choice even if they are extremely average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 02:59 PM |
| 4 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.No, and i don't either but, at some point you have to take some risk with people if you want to meet people or hookup or have a relationship. If not then you will just stay alone at home where everyone is a possible murderer and everyone is a possible rapist. I used to be paranoid as fuck about every little single thing like that, because "what if" something happens... If someone wanted to do something to me like that they easily could so i was terrified. Then i started actually going out and re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 02:26 PM |
| 3 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.I've read it several times and I'm struggling to get to the bottom of the point you are actually trying to make. You say men don't appreciate it, then go on to say it is just a better solution to take it slow and vet more men who actually appreciates a woman’s attention instead of acting like he’s entitled to it. Which is most men... so what is the point of this post. You are arguing that a minority of people are assholes and generalising it. How would you feel if i said it's women who don't app… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 01:57 PM |
| 18 | There’s no point in women freely give away sexual attention when men dont appreciate it.You need to find better men honestly. There are lots of men that would freely give women all the time, attention and pleasure they could ever ask for, for nothing in return. It's disrespectful to group up a bunch of losers with everyone else and say men don't appreciate it enough. If you're so picky about who you give your attention to, why do you still end up with someone who can't even make you orgasm? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Modern dating is becoming more difficult because men and women are becoming increasingly ideologically dividedI kinda agree and kinda don't. It makes it easier in the sense that its easier to find lots of people very quickly... but harder because people are less willing to actually go out and put themselves out there and actually be social and real. I still think in person meeting/dating is the best way to meet someone genuine as they actually are in person without tweaking every little thing to make themselves look perfect. Dating apps just scream desperation or attention seeking to me at least, it is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/26 05:36 PM |
| -1 | What is romantic about monogamy?Have you ever been in love, like real genuine deep love? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/26 01:41 PM |
| 5 | Unsuccessful men on the dating regard should just accept it and continue with their livesi find this true until they get a taste of genuine love and realise how much better it feels. Lots just want sex because they dont understand love or have never felt it, so they assume sex=love, when its actually feelings of lust. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/26 06:11 AM |
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