WinningCommunication Archive

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1	Turning 30 soon and absolutely clueless and sexually frustated after attempting cold approach yesterday for the upteenth time. As a 6'4" slightly nerdy black dude who has embraced the blackpill and lives with his parents, finding women into me is near impossible... In your situation I have a CRUCIAL recommendation. Focus on the process for awhile, when there is so much emotional baggage everything can feel so extreme. What I mean is, just focus on the effort you put in and being happy with it and not thinking about results at all. I would, for example, pick a TECHNICAL style of game and practice it for a pre determined amount each week. Say a few hours a few times a week or an hour everyday. Just do that and aim to forget about yourself and what everything…	/r/seduction	19/05/24 09:18 PM
1	Miami vs. Fort Lauderdale for game? ??? Miami is one of the most loaded with hot girls cities there is, at least it used to be. I think it got a bit worse but it was still very good when I was there last. That being said, sometimes a change of scenery can make your game MUCH better, it just does. You break out of ruts, try new things etc. If you move, I would spend the rest of the time in miami as a "practice ground" really focus on what you want to get good at, use the move as motivation.	/r/seduction	19/05/24 09:15 PM
0	Approached and got told to F off So, you made some major mistakes, but the mistakes are FIXABLE. Keep that in mind. You "STALLED OUT the set". This was an old school game thing. Waiting around on the train and not approaching her, then waiting till you two got off the train is going to set off loads of alarm bells. 1) When you wait and hesitate awhile it just makes it weird, unnatural or shows lack of confidence, can also be creepy. 2) The girl assumed that you followed her off the train. She has no way to know you were getting…	/r/seduction	19/05/24 09:08 PM
1	Changing my bedtime has made seduction so much easier No problem, he has a simple book "the code" that is on kindle unlimited. But he has tons of stuff on youtube and great podcasts. The podcast in general is great and educational. Jocko btw: was one of the top navy seals in a heavy combat area in iraq, then started a successful company also is world class at brazilian jiujitsu and wrote a ton of books, he is legit AF. Here is a nice playlist from him you will probably like: Standard Directive 01: Take Control (youtube.com)	/r/seduction	19/05/24 04:06 PM
1	Date cancelled because she was a bit nervous. Should I next her? I would personally not next her, I really like when a girl is honest about being nervous. I have dated multiple girls who have told me stuff like this, it tends to be really sweet feminine honest type girls. It is really simple, she told you what she needs: You say "no problem, how about we can go back and forth with like 5 questions each to get more comfortable or.. "do you want to do a short call?" or even "what could we do to make you more comfortable?" If you are looking though for an immedi…	/r/seduction	19/05/24 04:03 PM
3	Changing my bedtime has made seduction so much easier Good stuff man. Overall having a schedule you stick to and knowing where you are going to be/what you are going to be doing at a given time - makes girls chase like crazy. The nice " hey great talking to you , I have to go to XYZ now" is really powerful. Plus aside from dating living a disciplined life is an awesome life. Jocko Willink "Discipline equals Freedom" ( anyone who has not checked him out, you must)	/r/seduction	19/05/24 04:00 PM
2	A cold approach purpose is to seduce them, not to get their number in less than 1 minute and then complain that your text game sucks. Very important reminder for most guys. Also instant dates are the best. If you change your mentality to getting to know the girl instant dates are actually really natural and easy. You are just hanging out and continue to hang out.	/r/seduction	18/05/24 04:45 PM
1	How should I approach a girl in the gym Make sure your game is very good to start. If you are not consistently getting DATES from women you approach elsewhere do not try and get dates in a closed environment. If you are getting consistent dates, be social with everyone at the gym then just talk to the women as you normally do but slow it down a bit and be subtle.	/r/seduction	18/05/24 04:42 PM
1	Am I already rejected and Ghosted Messaged asking if she "is done with work and or busy?" - to the woman this comes off as needy and boring. On dating apps she is getting constant matches and trying to DISQUALIFY guys to work through them. So a mistake like this yeah, put you to the bottom of the pile. Learn from it and get a strategy	/r/seduction	16/05/24 12:32 AM
1	Anyone here who improved their looks and got more success? Of course, it helps. The main thing is get a cool haircut and a style that works for you. That is literally night and day. When you have a cool style overall you are basically telling women/the world "this guy gets it". People treat you totally differently based on how you dress. We could see this as "shallow" or as a great opportunity - it is something we have 100% control over, plus literal neanderthals are found in their graves with various necklaces and things with no purpose but looks/statu…	/r/seduction	16/05/24 12:29 AM
5	Went out solo today I totally agree. Chatting with people in general is a super great prep/skill/warm up ( all of the above). Not to mention, it makes you genuinely more attractive as being the type of friendly guy who talks to everyone is attractive. When that becomes a habit, girls notice how people respond well to you on dates - they like that, it makes things smoother, not mention it is cool to simply be positive and make your and other's days better.	/r/seduction	16/05/24 12:25 AM
1	Went out solo today Have a bit more of a plan and lower your bar. What happened to you is super common. Daytime walking around, over thinking then every little thing becomes a big missed opportunity. You want to get in motion and get momentum. In terms of a lower bar: try going out with a PLAN of asking 3 workers, for example, where to find a certain item in a store. Or plan to make eye contact with 10 people. Stuff like that, small things. When you have a plan to do the small easy things, you are in motion so it i…	/r/seduction	16/05/24 12:23 AM
2	Good phrases for Buenos Aires women? I would just speak English if you don't speak any Spanish. Knowing like one phrase could look a little try hard and immediately shows that it is a planned pick up line. Learning some Spanish in general is a good idea, but I wouldn't make the only Spanish I know be my opening pick up line.	/r/seduction	15/05/24 07:56 PM
1	What element is missing in my personality? Teasing with a strong frame most likely. Also perhaps setting boundaries and "holding court" like being a leader. You probably have your comfort game down it sounds like and just need to add in attraction game. So look into attraction, breaking rapport etc.	/r/seduction	15/05/24 04:57 PM
7	Getting girls in clubs to dance with you I have a pretty simple process, but it is a little niche. 1) Key part is to dance and have fun yourself first. Learn to be a good dancer. So hit the dancefloor and dance 2) Chat very briefly with a few girls then LEAVE and dance more 3) Then you go back and invite the girl/girls to come dance. Works pretty well, they see you dancing yourself you talk to them a tiny bit and leave them wanting more then invite them to join you dancing. It is a pretty comfortable way to do it. This is more for like…	/r/seduction	15/05/24 04:56 PM
2	Small City Advice 1) Use indirect game NO QUESTION. My friend is in a city with like 500k but with a main downtown area and started running into the same girls using direct game. research mystery method , it does not have to be canned, but the principles of befriending everyone entertaining groups etc. - this type of game can actually improve as you know more people/see them again versus direct which can burn you out. 2) Approach but do a lot of home prep work. People stopped this but it totally works. Practice t…	/r/seduction	14/05/24 03:29 AM
7	Best countries/holiday destinations to pick up girls/practice game? Do not go to Vegas. If you are in Europe it is a huge huge waste to go that far. Las Vegas is considered one of the best US cities but my friends from Europe visit and don't understand why the women are so unattractive. I hear great things about Reykjavík. Party city, beautiful women and a bit less known for this then Sweden for example.	/r/seduction	14/05/24 03:20 AM
2	Does it increase attractiveness when someone learns your native language even though you already know English? I find if I speak English to a girl and then she says " Spanish only" or "no English" then I start speaking Spanish we almost always go on a date lol. But If I speak Spanish like I am trying to impress her, then it goes south. But if you are good enough to just speak Spanish from the start and they assume you are a heritage speaker for example, that also works well. Overall : yeah it is great but, early stages it probably is not too attractive, but it is still awesome and a no brainer to learn t…	/r/seduction	14/05/24 03:17 AM
0	Best cold approach openers This is actually excellent stuff. There is a reason guys who dedicated their lives to this stuff came up with opinion openers, it is not like no one had ever thought of "say anything" before that. Have not tried all of these though, but of the ones that look familiar they all look solid, I'll try some of the others out.	/r/seduction	14/05/24 03:14 AM
2	Does showing too much interest kill your game long term The short answer is : Absolutely yes. A nice solution is: Schedule your days. It is weird but it somehow like magic when you plan out your days and know where you are going and have somewhere to be women seem to want to hang out with you. It is uncanny, I swear you even get more texts. It also leads to being more productive, calmer and happier. Tip: Scheduling does not mean just productivity, it helps you enjoy your leisure more as well. Even scheduling a relaxing reading session or to wach a mo…	/r/seduction	14/05/24 03:11 AM
1	Ghosted after first date - double text advice Hmm, you really need to give more details. This is not very useful. That is also not a good text to send. Think about it, shouldn't it make sense that the details of the date matter to what may have gone wrong?	/r/seduction	13/05/24 03:32 AM