TP learns the hard way about allowing women to enter a male space, or participate in a male activity:
Can anyone point me to some posts where Vox deals with women who feel the need to 'hang out with the guys"... which almost always then leads to "women now needs to change shit up and have the group do things differently".

I, thankfully, learned my lesson in high school. Girls that wanted to hang out with and do the 'guy things' always lead to them wanting to change it ("oh we should do this instead of that"). It's like, you acquiesce to their demands of inclusion and they take that as a vote by the group to be the leader.

So here I am now, with a group of dads (our kids at the same daycare) who hang out. A couple of the wives (not mine) wanted to come out once with us. That went to being a constant presence.... now it's wanting to change what we do, when we do it, and where we do it. I warned my loser ass friend to not let his wife come along; "they do their thing, we have ours". First time out, she and the other mom held court at the table at the pub we go to. And I knew it would happen.
This sort of thing is very easy to handle. Don't go along with it and provide an alternative. Now that the women are part of this group, stop going, and invite a few of the guys to join you in a separate group. Only permit the weak husbands to join if they understand the wives will not be allowed to accompany them.