Usually if you look at pictures of the groom and bride, you can tell who wears the pants in the relationship/marriage. Who is leaning into who is a decent indicator, but also how happy the groom and bride are respectively can also be one.

Obviously, if the wedding turns into a BrideZilla fest, this is a pretty obvious indicator that it’s not about marriage but about attention to the bride.

One I’ve been thinking about recently is the naming convention. The bride taking the last name of the groom is not always the case that the groom wears the pants. However, hyphenating or keeping her own name is a pretty good sign that the Bride is a independent woman who don’t need no man type of wife though (unless it’s a culture where it’s normal for the bride to keep her own last name).

Something I’ve been paying more attention to recently is who comes first in the wedding invitations. Is it “Groom and Bride’s wedding” or “Bride’s and Groom’s wedding.” The latter from what I’ve seen tends to mean the Bride tends to wear the pants more, especially when you consider that traditionally the bride and groom in western wedding become Mr and Mrs Groom’s name.

I’m sure there are more indicators that I’m missing too. Have any readers noticed any others?