An acceptable girl.
A fair legal system.
A house in a good school district.
A salary good enough to maintain family expenses so the wife doesn’t have to work and can focus on child-rearing.
Give most men those four things and he will gladly enter the sacrament of marriage. You are probably one of them. I am one of them.
Don’t worry, societal influences and economic policy have irreparably fucked those four conditions out of reach for the average guy, so you may never have to worry about being subjected to the indignity of a happy marriage.
Its important perspective, though.
Most of you are here not because you are some player for life destined to fuck and chuck sluts, you are here because its a reaction to a world slanted against you.
The acceptable girls drank the figurative Kool-Aid of feminism and became cock-carouseled, entitled, and allergic to marriage during years of good fertility. The acceptable girls drank the literal Kool-Aid and became overweight on high carbohydrate diets and alcohol. The acceptable girls were given a cushion of contraception, penicillin, and modern medicine which alleviate the biological consequences of sex and encourage rampant hypergamy.
The fair legal system got overhauled with no-fault divorce, vaginally charged court rulings, heavy alimony and child support.
The house in a good school district has an inflated price due to loose monetary policies 100 years in the making. They’ve been bid up by dual-income, zero or one child families. A mother can’t afford to stay at home and focus solely on child-rearing if she wants her kids to live in a good area.
The good jobs that used to earn a man a living and status and build a world have been outsourced, heavily unionized or underbid. They have been replaced by an economy that women climb in, which favors bureaucracy, useless credentials, and sending emails with buzzwords. Any man that earns his living with his hands outside of an air-conditioned office is seen as “prole” or lower class.
This is not your fault, Will Hunting. You are just one man. Forces greater than you have been conspiring against your happiness for a long time.
My point today is not to blame anyone, or theorize on how to solve the problems in our society. There’s plenty of that to go around.
No, my point is that men claim how they deal with the opposite sex is a matter of principle that they truly believe in, when in reality its just a reaction to the hand they are dealt.
Its easy for a man surrounded by the fat, the bitchy, and the slutty to lead the Don’t Marry charge.
However, as the ashes of Mark Minter have taught us, if you change a man’s options and circumstances, you often change his principles.
Be careful what you speak of in absolute terms. Would you say the same thing if you were living in 1850? 1950? a different country or city? How about if you had male-model good looks, or you were 5’2” and dogshit ugly?
Are you against marriage if a filthy rich, gorgeous 18 year old virgin with a passion for yoga and healthy cooking wants to marry you? Really?
Check yourself. Are your principles a defense mechanism because you can’t get what you really want?
Minter got his spot blown up, but the only difference between him and many commenters and bloggers out there is he used his real name.
There’s a lot of hard talk out there.
I’m not impressed by any guy’s N count or “flags” or crazy hookup story (with no pictures).
I mean, I’m not NOT impressed by any guys lay count either, but consider this: Aren’t there “players” out there who fuck a ton of 6’s when they would be happy as a pig in shit to settle down with just one single 8?
You can brag about a one-night stand +1 fuck and chuck, but if the girl was much hotter and sweeter wouldn’t you rather bang her 100 times, not just 1?
Look, I’m not trying to sell marriage or monogamy. For any man with family values, this is a dogshit time to live.
Just understand that the cock-carouseling is not the natural state of women. This is a very novel time in sexual history. Women today have been dealt a very unique set of circumstances and they are just biological machines that are responding rationally to try to maximize outcomes. The manosphere has rightfully hammered home that women are hypergamous serial-killer fuckers, but try to understand: given the right social, biological and economic incentives, women actually do make good wives. Right now is just not that time.
Living a player’s life is fun but its a real wear and tear after an extended period of time. If you are famous and pussy falls into your lap it is cool, but for the rest of us normal guys who run street approaches and trawl bars for our product, it is work. There are ebbs and flows, unstability. One week you feast on a smorgasboard, the next week you starve through a drought. You spend countless hours on the labors, far less time enjoying the fruits. Its not all a grind, approaching girls is fun, but there’s so much other shit you can be doing. You drink a little too much, trade off time at the gym or time spent with friends and family.
Don’t get me wrong, its a life everyone needs to live for a little while. Even pro-marriage dudes should sow some wild oats for a solid few years. Being proficient in seduction is an important part of being a man. But to be a truly long-term pussy-slaying bachelor? Most guys really aren’t about that life.
When I’d see guys get into long committed relationships, especially good looking guys, I’d think “what a pussy, doesn’t he know anything?”
I was arrogantly overlooking the fact that monogamy is a decent deal for most guys if they can get it.
If you truly would prefer a good marriage or a long term monogamy if an amazing girl popped up, don’t lie to yourself and say you wouldn’t.
If you want a good marriage, but you can’t attract one of the ever-shrinking pool of marriageable girls,and you can’t afford a nice house, stay at home wife and kids, that’s fine. Life sucks. Like I said, you have been dealt a shit hand, so go be a MGTOW or PUA if you want. You probably make good points and nobody is going to judge you. Just don’t fool yourself into thinking its your first choice.
If you’re up for the challenge, quit your bitching and blaming and go start a family if that’s what you really want. Protect yourself legally the best you can, tell the naysayers to fuck off, and do it.
If you’re a true pussy-pounding player and you get all the love you need from brief bouts of monogamy and you don’t care about building a family legacy, and you want to fuck new notches until you die, then congratulations: The modern world is made for you. I suspect far less guys in the Manosphere actually fit in this category than are representing that they do.
