A girl once lamented to me that all her friends were single and she didn’t know why. Having met her friends numerous times, I said okay, name your single friends and I’ll tell you why they don’t have a boyfriend.

“Dana” “Big nose.”

“Courtney”  “Outspoken feminist slut.”

“Megan”  “You’re kidding right? Disgustingly ugly and chubby”

“Alexis”  “Total cunt.  Always has her head buried in her phone.”

“Lisa…she’s pretty” “Yeah, but she’s a slut.  Probably blows off any guy who wants a relationship so she can chase assholes who don’t”

“Becca”  “Always chasing a guy WAY out of her league.  She’s a 6.  Needs to settle.”

In fact, I said, the only one of your friends who has a boyfriend, Nicole, is sweet, thin, cute and not a slut.  And her boyfriend is hilarious.  Not a coincidence.

In the Manosphere we have a real nuanced understanding of the sexual market and as such we tend to overanalyze.  But for the vast majority of people having trouble with the opposite sex, there is ONE OBVIOUS PROBLEM that is holding them back.  This problem is obvious to any person who knows them and takes an objective look at the situation.

For girls its usually: you’re fat, you’re a slut, you refuse to settle, or you’re a bitch

For guys: you’re fat, you don’t do anything interesting, you don’t meet new people, you’re a total pushover.

In my post yesterday on late virginity loss, a few guys commented that it was their being overweight that held them back.  Listen, if you are fat there is no mystery why you struggle in the sexual market.  You don’t need to neg, you don’t need to Yadstop.  You need to close out my blog, go read The Paleo Manifesto and Starting Strength, then spend 6 months in the gym and kitchen and come back.  Looks matter less for guys.  The key word is LESS.  They still matter.  Most couples you see are pretty evenly matched up in looks and that ‘s not an accident.

Stop blaming the fact that you can’t get laid on hypergamy while spending 12 hours a day on your computer.

Take a good look at yourself and pick out your OBVIOUS PROBLEM, then go work on it.