Masculinity is being forbidden, and yet, Men are blamed for lacking courage.

Readership: All
Theme: The W!tchy War on Masculinity
Author’s Note: This post was requested by Anonymous on 2023/11/6.
Readers’ Note: Part of a mini-series on the new “Pity Men” narrative.
Length: 1,700 words
Reading Time: 9 minutes

Eulogizing the Death of Masculinity

Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! Because ye build the tombs of the prophets, and garnish the sepulchres of the righteous…

Matthew 23:29 (KJV)

In the same way, culture shapers obsess over the death of masculinity and gloat over the spiritual nakedness of men that is revealed during this age.

Take a look at these headlines.  (I won’t wade through the propaganda therein.)

  1. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): The underreported rise in male suicide (2023/3/13)
  2. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): Into the vacuum demons pour (2023/3/30)
  3. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): The fragile beauty of male friendship (2023/4/1)
  4. Christianity Today (Zachary Wagner): In Search of Non-Toxic Male Sexuality (2023/6/12) [Archive]
  5. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): Why fatherhood and marriage don’t have to go together (2023/6/18)
  6. The Washington Post (Christine Emba): Men are lost.  Here’s a map out of the wilderness. (2023/7/10)
  7. Aaron Renn: Weekly Digest: American Men Are Lost (2023/7/14)
  8. Aaron Renn: Christine Emba: Man Troubles (2023/8/21) [Paywall]
  9. Christianity Today (Richard Mouw): What ‘Jesus Wept’ Means for Manhood (2023/8/23) [Archive]
  10. The Financial Times (Jemima Kelly): The west is suffering from a crisis of courage (2023/8/24) [Archive]
  11. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): Why Lone Ranger masculinity is a dead end (2023/9/2)
  12. Aaron Renn: Weekly Digest: A Crisis of Courage (2023/9/9)
  13. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): By far the biggest risk factor for suicide is being male (2023/9/16)
  14. The Wall Street Journal: Rescuing Men From Rage Rabbit Holes (2023/9/23) [Archive]
  15. Aaron Renn: Weekly Digest: Pity the Incel (2023/9/23)
  16. Aaron Renn: The Feds Come for the Manosphere (2023/10/13) [Archive?]
  17. Aaron Renn: Weekly Digest: The Evil That Men Do (2023/10/13)
  18. Of Boys and Men (Richard Reeves): Men without children (2023/10/23)
  19. Men Are Good (Eisso Post): Let Us Now Praise Awkward Men (2023/11/27)

The Double Bind

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As you can see from the headlines above, these messengers keep beating the drum that American men are angry, depressed, evil, inadequate, lost, pitiable, rejected, wimpy wussies.  And they’ll throw in a statement or a post now and then to explain why they think they’re doing men a service in doing so.  Reeves adds the mockery of false compassion…  “It’s OK to cry.”*

Meanwhile, the old Feminist / W0ke message continues to reverberate — that masculinity is abusive, antiquated, egotistical, oppressive, ruthless, toxic, etc., ad nauseum.

In short, men are being given a non-verbal “Man Up!” message with an extra dose of feigned empathy, summarily expressed as “Don’t give up!” But it’s one that becomes a conundrum when contained in a gynocentric culture. Exactly HOW is a man supposed to forsake ‘toxic’ masculinity and NOT be an NPC rainbow wuss? (Or maybe that is the point of rejecting masculinity.)

* Reeves is channeling an old Boomer epithet / song.

The Cultural Sh!t Test

It is a cruel and cynical mockery to point out that men are failing to be MEN when they’re ostracized, punished, and shamed for actually displaying masculinity.  And yet, this is exactly what the new proto-conservative mouthpieces are doing.

It’s like a grand mal Sh!t Test scaled up to the cultural level — which could be expected from a gynocentric culture.

Let me explain.

One of the more frustrating characteristics of the unredeemed feminine nature is the headstrong insistance on constant Fitness Testing, AKA Sh!t Testing.* Here, the woman drums up an entirely unnecessary complication in the man’s life and continues doing so until the man’s inadequacies and weaknesses are exposed. In fact, this is the definitive purpose of Fitness Testing. In the process, it is not uncommon for the man to be utterly emasculated, and as a result, she loses her attraction to him and her respect for him goes in the trash. This happens because she knows what she is doing is bad, and he won’t stand up to her. It never occurs to her that she should stop being a troublemaker.

The man’s only way out of a Sh!t test is for him to demonstrate impressive feats of masculine dominance, especially done in a manner that humbles the woman.

Men can fare much better in their relationships and marriages if they can learn how to handle Fitness Testing with finesse, however, this can be an exercise in futility with an excessively insecure wife who gets a shill out of being contentious and/or domineering.

The bitter irony of Fitness Testing is that as the woman is rocking the boat to flush out demonstrations of masculinity from the man in order to ameliorate her own feelings of insecurity, the end result is that she finds evidence of weakness in the man which erodes her trust in him and thereby makes her feel even more insecure.

Likewise, the current focus on men’s weaknesses does not ameliorate men’s troubles, nor offer any sort of therapy. It only exposes men’s weaknesses to public criticism and makes them even weaker, further eroding the collective confidence in men as a group. (Or maybe that is the whole point of this exercise.)

* Fitness Testing and how it leads to a dead bedroom was discussed in a recent thread of comments.

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Attacking the Masculine Mythos

Let’s take this a step further. It gets worse.

Masculinity is certainly manifested in the outward hallmarks of courage, honor, mastery, perseverance, protecting, providing, strength, getting the job done, and so on. But in a metaphysical sense, Masculinity* is a psychological construct — an illusion, yes, but it is a true illusion — a mythos that is apprehended by faith. The more you believe it, the more you will BE it!

The meaning of all actions, appearances, experiences, facts, impressions, and spoken words are interpreted through the lens of whether it aligns with and/or supports the larger mythos of Masculinity, in which case it is considered Masculine, or else cuts against the grain of it. In addition to Masculinity, Femininity, glory, honor, reputation, and personality theory are other socio-psychological constructs based on mythos which are interpreted in the same manner.

Unrelenting Sh!t Testing, whether personal or cultural, breaks that true illusion and replaces it with a denial of the glory of God that is manifested in the mythos of male and female archetypes and sexual dimorphism. The current “War on Masculinity” is not only a denigration of men and a subversion of male authority, it is also an attempt to deconstruct and demonize the very archetype of Masculinity. The conscientious and repeated insistence on breaking these constitutional beliefs is a non-verbal, situational gaslighting of our collective masculine identity — another form of W!tchcr@ft.

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Glory is Dispelled

Back in March, 2023, we covered the topic of Glory and we identified many elements of that which glorifies God.  If we look down the list of 30 vectors of how God’s glory is shown through men, we find that the dilemma proposed above effectively removes two thirds of the list!  Namely…

  1. A culture that is ordered in justice and the fear of God
  2. Being one’s true self (in Christ), e.g. charisma, confidence, etc.
  3. Battle, Competition, Conflict, Opposition, etc., specifically overcoming these.
  4. Drawing the Line on the Unacceptable
  5. Enjoyment; Joy
  6. Ethnic identification and affiliation (e.g. belonging, group loyalty, humility)
  7. Faithfulness
  8. Fearlessness; Overcoming Fear and Shame
  9. Grace
  10. Honor, praise, or admiration.
  11. Justice
  12. Mercy
  13. Obedience to authority
  14. Playing a Role (c.f. an appeal to Mythos)
  15. Power; Military might; Martial prowess
  16. Raising the Bar on Commitment
  17. Righteousness
  18. Sexual Dimorphism (Masculinity vs. Femininity)
  19. Suffering
  20. Taking a stand

And let’s not forget Family which juxtaposes several of these.

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Of note, there are two traits that glorify God which have been taken out of context, exaggerated, and set out of place — Self-Sacrifice and Suffering.  The nature of the sacrifice is an offering to the false god of gynocentrism, thereby stealing from that which rightly belongs to God. The suffering is on account of the sins of others who have been deceived and misled by the lying spirits of this age.  Here, we are called to draw boundaries, right those circumstances as much as we are able, and forgive if/when necessary.  Sometimes, forgiveness means removing certain people from one’s life.  Reclaiming God’s Glory is glorious in itself.

So What are MEN Supposed to BE in 2023?

Overall, men are being given a choice between being a fake, liberal, Male Feminist, or a conservative weeping wanker.  There is no option for men to be MEN.

Posing this false dilemma casts a spell that forsakes the glory of God that is shown through men and masculinity.  Furthermore, this false dichotomy entices men to lock themselves into a frustrating dilemma and prevents them from seeing through the ruse.  Meanwhile, men are either trying to kill their masculine essence, or trying to pretend they don’t have one, or succumbing to hopelessness, or self-pity, or worse.

It takes a bit of faith to see past all the Gaslighting and hash tag slinging in these narratives.  MEN are NOT defined by these cultural narratives, unless they buy into it.  MEN are defined by the mythos of masculinity and the life stories they create for themselves, and these narratives are defined by the men who create them.

Faith allows a man to get a glimpse of how he might Glorify God in being a MAN.  And these days, it takes an active imagination to latch on to one’s true calling as a MAN.  That vision should inspire and drive a man to fulfill that calling.

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The main metaphysical / spiritual obstacle is therefore forsaking the false mythos being presented, which is idolatry.

Σ Frame Axiom 36 (Jack): Idolatry displaces and destroys the imaginings of faith.

Identify your idols, whether it be Altruism, Chivalry, egotistical pride, Gynocentrism, lust, being a Nice Guy™, religious legalism, self-pity, or another.

The more you submerge yourself in the constitutional lies of these idols and entertain the cathartic, gnostic platitudes being proffered by either the secular and/or pseudo-Christian cultures, the more you will fall under its spell, and the weaker your faith will be. OTOH, the more you tap into your faith and activate your mystical imagination, the more you’ll gravitate towards your true, God ordained purpose in life as a MAN.

What God calls each man to be is unique to each man.  Draw upon your inner convictions through vigilant prayer to discover what God has in store for you.  Cling tenaciously to that vision until it becomes a reality.

Find rest in God, worship Him through pursuing the Flow of the Holy Spirit, and trust that He is able to demonstrate His glory by solving your personal problems in unexpected ways.

A Prayer for Strength and Renewal

Lord, I believe that You are able to demonstrate Your glory by solving my personal problems in great and unexpected ways.

I shall find rest in You and worship You, that I might pursue the Flow of the Holy Spirit in my life.

Set mine eyes upon the work of Christ in me.  Strengthen my innermost being, and I shall reclaim your glory.  Let my words and actions befit the image of masculinity that You have laid out for me.

Let me not be moved nor shaken by the lies and fitness tests imposed upon me by this World.  Grant me the wisdom to draw boundaries in response to the poor or sinful behaviors of others, the faith to right those circumstances as much as I am able, and the discernment to know when and how it is most appropriate to forgive others.

In Jesus name I pray,

Amen

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