Sociosexual currencies in a debased SMP.

Readership: Christian Men
Theme: Christian Red Pill; Current Intersexual Dynamics
Author’s Note: This essay contains some input from Red Pill Apostle.
Length: 1,250 words
Reading Time: 7 minutes

Intro

Stated in the previous post:

Taraban’s Equivalency: Attention / Validation is to women what Sex is to men, and these reinforcements (a la operant conditioning) constitute the primary sociosexual currency within the economic trade model of intersexual dynamics.

Taraban’s Equivalency constitutes a new paradigm of sociosexual parity between the sexes.

Let me explain.

Inequivalent Equivalencies

SMV/MMV parity (i.e. how well a man and a woman match each other) was once estimated by a comprehensive assessment regarding age, attractiveness, health, looks, socioeconomic status, and sociosexual dimorphism.

But now, parity is determined by how well one can satisfy the particular sociosexual desires, expectations, and needs of a particular member of the opposite sex.  This includes all of the static characteristics of the old estimation, respective to sex, plus the dynamic aspects of charisma / Rizz and the applied skills of (women) pulling the Attention of not just men in general, but the high SMV males whom they desire, or (men) charming the pants off P00nbearers at sheer will.

As Taraban notes, these ‘Equivalencies’ may appear to have equitable face value (i.e. one’s cognizant awareness of sociosexual ‘parity’ during a sociosexual transaction); however, these ‘Equivalencies’ are far from actually being ‘equivalent’ in terms of real relational value, for the following reasons.

  1. Attention tends to spoil women, whereas, Sex tends to empower men.
  2. Sex has ethical taboos and moral implications that Attention does not have.
  3. It is much MUCH easier for women to get Attention than it is for men to get Sex.
  4. Women engage in giving away Sex for free (to Top Ch@ds), and this is responsible for both the mass defilement of women and the breakdown of the SMP.
  5. Men give women beaucoup Attention for free, thus contributing to an intersexual power imbalance that is detrimental to both Headship and a man’s internal locus of control.
  6. Women giving men Sex outside of marriage, the Equivalency thereof notwithstanding, is far more costly and damaging to these women, to the family in general, and to societal order by extension, than it is for men giving women Attention without equal sexual recompense.

These ‘inequivalencies’ have far-reaching ramifications, but the end result, as we can see, is that both men and women are freely and willingly giving away what is most valuable without commensurate recompense, while ironically failing to receive what is most desired — a dynamic that I’ll cover in a future post, Selling Out Cheap (2026/2/13).

Consequently, there are fewer and fewer couples forming LTRs, and even fewer marriages. Soft harems, AKA ‘Situationships’, and out-of-wedlock births abound in their stead.

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How Men and Women Influence Each Other via Operant Conditioning

Taraban states that these Equivalencies are exchanged via operant conditioning, so let’s examine how this works.

As Taraban describes,

“…each sex has the ability to really influence the behavior of the other.

For instance, women could actually significantly change male behavior on the population level.  They would just have to [have sex with] the men who do the things that women insist they want them to do.

You hear this all the time in modern culture.  Women want men who are, say, “emotionally available”, or men with green flags, or men who “make an effort”.

But here’s the thing.  Women don’t [want to have sex with] these men.  And men know this.

Most men start out in the sexual marketplace as good-faith actors.  That is, they listen to women and attempt to give them what they say they want in order to receive what they want in return.  But they eventually realize that this doesn’t ‘work’ and they are forced to acknowledge that other men who don’t do these things get laid.  Women might complain about narcissistic men and [ __ ] and F_ck boys, but despite their complaining, they [still have sex with] these men.  So these types of men, or really, this type of behavior, isn’t going away anytime soon. This is because sex is the most reinforcing thing you can give to a man.  [As long as women are rewarding such men’s behavior with sex, their behavior will not change.]”

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“By the same token, the most reinforcing thing that you can give to a woman is Attention.”

This inequality, the fact that the most reinforcing thing isn’t the same for both genders, leads to a lot of asymmetrical value exchange in sexual relationships.

For instance, as previously mentioned, women complain about F_ck boys.  Why?  Because they get away with receiving their most reinforcing good, Sex, without reciprocally providing the woman with her most reinforcing good, Attention, and the validation and consideration and commitment that often attends Attention.  And this wrankles women because they feel like they got the fuzzy end of the lollipop in that exchange.  But they still F_ck F_ck boys!  How else could they be F_ck boys?  [The sex] is what keeps them around.”

Taraban didn’t discuss the flip side — men’s viewpoint of profligate women, who are much MUCH more ubiquitous than F_ck Boys are — probably because that would offend women. So here it is.

Men complain about the ubiquity of women who’ve given their most precious gift of consummate love to fly-by-night Ch@ds and worthless thugs, and continue doing so for a decade or more, and have thus made themselves unworthy of marriage and motherhood.  Why?  Because they get away with receiving their most reinforcing good, Attention, without reciprocally providing their future husband (if any) with his most reinforcing good, Sex, and the loyalty, natural affection, pair bonding, respect, and sexual passion that often attends Sexual Chastity.  This shreds men’s hearts because they feel like they got Chad’s defiled, diseased, loose labial lipped leftovers in that exchange.  But they still lavish women with unearned Attention, and they still wife up unrepentant slores!  How else could these women get away with all their sexual indiscretions and then stick the landing?  The lack of accountability is what permits them to continue riding the carousel.

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Game is a Form of Operant Conditioning

Perhaps the most important contribution of the old school PUAs is that they uncovered and identified the specific sociosexual economic currencies that condition and motivate women, i.e. Attention, Validation, and good hard shagging from HSMV men.  I do not believe that the PUA’s thought of the model the way that Taraban does, as an equivalent exchange, but they certainly arrived at the same answer through trial and error of various Game tactics.  So, we owe a debt of gratitude to the amoral Pick-Up Artists for exposing the essence of Taraban’s Equivalency through their manipulations.

To briefly review for the younger set, examples of said Game tactics are:

  • In general, a man addressing everyone in a group instead of just the targeted woman is a form of withholding Attention to establish a favorable power dynamic.
  • Alpha Male of the Group (AMOG)
  • Amused Mastery
  • Detachment
  • Dread
  • Grandstanding
  • Negs
  • Preselection
  • Many others

All of these Game tools are designed to manipulate and/or corral women’s Attention seeking behaviors.

Also, as I’ve mentioned before and must do so again because of the significance thereof, Taraban points out that the reason why Muslim cultures require women to wear burkas is because it totally eliminates the free Attention that women get from walking around in public, and serves to make getting Attention exclusive to their husbands. Is there any Christian equivalent to this custom?

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Conclusions

Women are far FAR more adept at attracting Attention from Men than Men are at attracting Women who are eager and willing to satisfy their sexual needs.  Women are literally building a lucrative business around attracting Attention from Men. Most men fall for this, while circumspect Men are disciplining themselves to resist the temptations of such transactions with said Women.

Traditional dating and courtship will be a thing of the past, for as long as this lopsided dynamic of Transactional Situationships continues.

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