I was having a heated discussion with some men and they believe that cheating in a relationship should be dealt with on a case by case basis and we shouldn’t judge women for staying with their men that cheat because men have so many reasons why they do it including higher levels of testosterone.

I am flabbergasted as to how I was gaslighted into thinking that I was wrong for thinking it is wrong and harmful for a woman to stay in a relationship with a man after he cheats.

For me this is zero tolerance. I won’t even hear another word. I firmly believe if a lot of women did not tolerate cheating behaviours from men then they wouldn’t be so emboldened to think we ought to forgive them.

Of course there are many reasons to stay but I just cannot believe what I was hearing. The audacity. I think it affects us all because if as a culture and society men knew what time it was that cheating on your wife or girlfriend meant you would lose them forever perhaps they would think twice about doing it.

I will not hear about how they have biological needs that need to be fulfilled. I 100% believe cheating is a choice and although I feel bad for women who get cheated on I really think it’s harmful when they stay.

Thanks for listening to my TedTalk.