I used to be that clingy, overbearing girlfriend. Mostly because I was insecure. However, my life has changed. I’ve really gotten my shit together in the past year and made myself proud. I am confident now. I’m independent. I love myself again. And people notice. Men notice. My newish boyfriend and I went to a Halloween party together and while we did have some fun together, we spent a lot of time separately & with other people. We were both just happy doing our own things & being independent with mutual friends. As soon as we got in the Lyft he tells me how attractive it is that it’s obvious that I don’t need him. It’s a nice feeling honestly. Not chasing after a guy, alluding him enough to make him want you more. And he does.