We've all heard so many men slamming women for being "high maintenance", when what they REALLY mean is "I don't want to have to put any time, effort, caring or cash into someone even though I'm getting all those things from them."
I have heard that from every boyfriend I've ever had except the "New Dude" and it's utter bullshit. I've heard that from acquaintances male and female because I expect things, since women aren't supposed to expect things. 😒
My first big heartbreak guy thought I was high maintenance because I was hurt he wouldn't leave me little love notes like I did for him and because I had the temerity to want ONE $50 birthday gift.... we were both young and didn't have serious money, but dammitt if you can't spend 5 minutes on a cute note for me or even give me some cheap silver earrings that I'll love and wear often for my goddamn birthday you really must not love me.
My last LVM ex thought that because his gifts had a big price tag then I should just automatically be happy as hell about getting things I didn't like/wouldn't use and then would guilt me about it. Because he spent $5300 on me!!! Let's just ignore the "good manners" thing where you never tell someone the price of a GIFT too while we're being a major dickbag.
It's not rocket surgery, dudes.... women will flat out TELL you what we like and what we want, and we'll also tell you what we DON'T like and DON'T want so the least you could do is fucking read the big blazing neon signs we're putting up.
No, we are NOT hard to please and "high maintenance".... we say things like "I would like" and "I don't like" and if you're too stupid to listen to some simple direct words, then you're absolutely too dumb to be dating ANY of us. And if you don't care enough to respond to simple direct words with actions that make us happy, you're not good enough to be dating ANY of us.
If you care about someone, be it friend, family or partner then you're supposed to WANT to do things or give them things that make them happy. Real caring means their happiness is important to you.
This post brought to you by hearing through the local gossip infodump that even from 3000 miles away and several years gone that my LVM ex is still bitching about how "difficult" "high maintenance" and "hard to please" I was and how I "ruined his Christmas" by not fawning all over him for his expensive but UGLY gifts and how it still haunts him.
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BOO! Dumbass!
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