So when a guy starts playing games you can do one of two things. 1) beat him at his own game or 2) walk away. Using fds strategies it's pretty easy to do 1

....I am so thankful for you guys because thanks to finding you before dating ive never had a guy trick me into sex because I stay firm to holding out until commitment and when he starts playing games I play them right back at him and if I feel uncomfortable despite that I start pulling away. Usually the minute I pull away or dont let them win the game the guy starts chasing me again, but eventually I get exhausted by having to put him in his place all the time becacause I want a real loving relationship, so I try to let my guard down one last time only to realize they go right back to playing games the minute I do.

so I get fed up and switch to tactic number 2) and cut him off. he tries to weasel back in my life then I'm done. Then I see a few months later this guy is dating a girl who tbh is no better than me and who obviously could care less about him and and he respects her 10x more for it, and I feel guilty because I'm incapable of doing that. I mean I've had guys I didn't truly didnt care about try and chase me but I don't see anything there so I don't pursue it. Id just rather be single than be with someone I'm not attracted to or into at all.

What sucks is I know if I had continued to play the game it could have been me and then I wonder maybe it is me...maybe I'll never find a guy I can be myself around....maybe I should have just pretended not to care like that girl is doing. How do you guys deal with this? I realize I'm treading in pickmeisha territory but I don't think I've ever found a hvm that I liked back.