After being with my s/o for five years, I finally ended things. I moved cross country after 1 year of LDR to a new state, changed careers, bought us a home, raised a puppy, helped pick out an engagement ring (it never made it to my finger), and did tons of therapy for it all to come crashing down. I did not put myself first or stick to my boundaries. Our issues came creeping in 2 years ago after I purchased the house in my own name. He spiraled into alcoholism. This is where it all went downhill. In several weeks, I return to my home state and I will never put myself second again. This sub helped me cross the finish line. Thank you all.