Hi I was thinking about something that has been said on this sub multiple times and truly resonated with me this week. If someone really wanted to be in a relationship with you, they would!!

I have a friend who I’ve known for the past 3 years; he’s looks fine and had a super toned body. We became pretty good friends to the point where we both knew personal things about each other and I’ll be honest I had hooked up with him twice before but I never saw him as someone I was romantically attracted to. Overall he has displayed green flags in some areas but red in others. Anyways this past week he said he could see something serious with me and wanted me to go on a date with him. Initially I said yes but as the date got closer I just cancelled and didn’t really give much of an explanation. He’s tried to flirt with me and constantly text me for the past month and I noticed I was getting annoyed with him.

This gave me some good perspective into how some people will be hot and cold; they’ll give you attention at times but that doesn’t mean they want you. I was the person partaking in these behaviors the whole time when I knew I would never want to date him. Just wanted to share this for some perspective. If someone isn’t treating you right or giving mixed signals, there is a HIGH chance they don’t really want to be with you.