I used to be extreme pickme, which has to do with me growing up all girls environment. Wen to Girls middle school, high school and finally women’s university. Funny enough when I was in uni, I was very rational and wasn’t pick me as I was focused on my career and studies other than men. When I moved to New York, I became all alone and that’s when I started craving for men. I was isolated and when I met met on OLD I tried hard to please them so I can stay with them. My only way of socializing was through meeting guys and going on dates. I became too attached too early.
However I realized whenever I return to my country and go back to my old environment which consists of my friends and family my pick me- ness wears off.
So after going through this sub and always reminding myself to put in full FDS mindset, I decided to act like how I was before. The kind of girl who wasn’t afraid of leaving men if he doesn’t treat me well. Somehow I became picky and started cutting guys off very early on.
Drink dates ? I say no without further explanation and block them. Last minute dates ? I lose interest in them ?
Triangulation ? I lost interest in them and don’t like them anymore.
Also I now am have multiple dates set up so I don’t focus on one guy only. It’s too risky. Now, I don’t blame guys. I just walk away.
Also check out mindful attraction 2.0 On YouTube. If you’re being emotional, it means you’re getting played by the men. So I take a step back when I’m emotional and cut them off. It’s hard because I have still feelings for them but I make them come to me.
