Moving on from the past

Fhaze1117 · 2020-05-11T05:03:19+00:00

When you put "getting women" as a measure of your own self worth,you'll be playing a losing game.

You really should read up on the countless of men who have been divorce raped,lost thier houses,pension, investment's, were me-tooed, alienated from thier kids,pay criminal amounts of child and alimony,jailed in false DV charges,had false claims made against them,living in dead bedroom for years and some can't leave because it will ruin them financially and starting over again at 50 or 60 is just not feasible hence the phrase "it's cheaper to keep her",were sperm jacked,live with an abusive partner and the list goes on.

These are the things your friends despise you for "missing out on" lol.

Believe me there are countless men who are married or have kids or are dating women and wish they were in your shoes: no worrying about kids, alimony,nagging wife. You can decide to live wherever the fuck you want and do whatever the fuck you wanna do. Basically you're "free". That's priceless for a dude.

Be the best you can be. Invest in yourself, learn a trade or go to school, real estate,get in shape.

If women come. Cool. Say hi and try to talk to them. If it works out, cool.If not, whatever. You just do you.

FairlyWhelmed · 2020-05-11T05:02:05+00:00

Man, I'm sorry that your "friends" have treated you those ways.

I need to let go and accept...

I think that's wise. Not easy, though.

I need to break out of this rut and move on. If I can find something new to fill up my life with I will be able to look back and not give a fuck.

What do you really fucking want? What goals excite you, make you feel alive? How do you want to be? Just things to consider.

ncarolina66 · 2020-05-11T05:37:44+00:00

They weren't your Friends, fuck them, they will get theirs in the future.

Focus on working hard and making money then you can do whatever you want in life....Real friends will stick around in the hard times and you will have too many once you have money.....(they also aren't your real friends).

As for chicks, make money and once again you will have more of them then you will know what to do with.....just bang em and leave em...(use a rubber and flush it down the drain....you went to HER place right? Didn't give her your real name right? Then who gives a fuck, flush it so she can't stuff it up her snatch and get prego.....)

MyShitDoesStink · 2020-05-11T07:51:25+00:00

Sounds like your friends were a bunch of dumbasses. I had those same friends in my life as well once. Let's work on making your self-worth not reliant on external parties (Female or Male). Instead, make it based on things no one can take away. Then the world will see you as a confident man and good things will come to you. Yes, that means girls as well, just don't make the same mistakes I did

I need to stop reading about dating online and focus on my hobbies.

What are your hobbies?

silly_birb · 2020-05-11T10:34:24+00:00

A solution i found was to get hobbies with other people. Men are people of action, talking doesn't bond men as much as work.

You don't need "friends" in the way women think it, to chat and waste time.

Find allies instead, reach new goals with them and keep building.

I was in a relationship for almost 8 years and there's not a single day i do not regret wasting that time, it gave me nothing except socializing with people that did nothing of their lives.

In 2 years alone i did 10 times what i did in those 8 years.

Scorponyorpo · 2020-05-11T10:59:35+00:00

"A man has to deal with pain and must experience rejection and" bla bla that's utter fucking bullshit. I'll do what I want with my life.

Guys try to be "real men" by taking cold showers, lift and read books because that's what they want out of their lives. That's fine, you do you.

However.. the issue is that they are insecure about their decision. They CAN'T STAND seeing you not do that and be happy with yourself because now they feel confronted with the fact that maybe they don't have to do what they are doing to be content with themselves.

"Be a man and approach women" I'd just say "I guess I'm not a man" and that's that.

Let's say that it is inherently true that you're no longer a man if you don't approach women (as stupid as that is)... so what? What's about about "not being a man"? If you genuinely find no pleasure in doing what the masses are doing, accept your label, wear it like a badge and do what you want.

Also, while I'm on this rant, here's an elite pro tip; never ever explain why you DON'T do things, force people to explain WHY you should DO things. Put them on the defensive instead of you automatically being on the offensive game.

You wouldn't accept a shop owner coming into your house and attempt to get him to leave by giving him a reason why you don't want to buy his stuff, you'd go into his store and tell him you'll leave unless he sells you on why you should buy his stuff.

Same thing with people telling you "Approach this girl! Why not??" it doesn't work that way. You don't have to do or give a reason for not doing something. They should be the ones selling you into their random proposal.

lord-latte · 2020-05-11T14:55:28+00:00

I can relate to you OP. I am extremely physically fit yet only fat women pay me any mind. Of course that is a non-negotiable deal breaker, but most people say “be a man” and “play in your own field” whatever that means. No thanks, I’ll just be content on my own. This boggles most people. Can’t tell you all the dumbass things I’ve heard in response to my choices.

Just think of all the headaches you’ll be saving yourself.

2020-05-11T15:34:24+00:00

Get used to your own company. I'm not saying that to be an ass, it's actually hard for some guys to be comfortable by themselves without outside stimuli.

Once you have mastered this, then focus on your goals. Not what anyone else wants you to be or do, what you want.

Focused, goal driven mature guys that are young are very rare, and you'll find your own path to happiness and success.

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Moving on from the past

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Title	Moving on from the past
Author	CalmElk
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	May 11, 2020 4:52 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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