Ok just a tad bit of background. My ex has propositioned me to move back to my home state and I am considering it. Now, I have lots of good reasons to go outside of just him. Cheaper cost of living, all my family is there, and job opportunities are good.

This relationship has had its ups and downs and we have had issues syncing up. Our timing is always horrible and life typically gets in the way. The timing may finally be right for both of us but the distance is an issue. Neither of us want to do a LDR. Mainly because I think we both realize we will screw it up and the chances of reconciliation drop significantly. This is probably our last go at trying to be together.

He has made comments about getting married and having kids. Power couple comments as well and it appears we are on the same page to a degree. However, as mentioned we go hot and cold. Change our minds etc. This is not the first time he has asked me to move to be with him. He asked about 3 years ago and I didn’t act on it despite wanting to be with him.

So... How do I initiate a conversation about commitment without making him feel like his freedom is under attack and maintaining some subordinate behaviors. I am a bit of an alpha female and have been balancing better. This conversation needs to happen but I am not sure how to approach it. Suggestions?