The man you want to be isn’t who you are today. We lift, eat clean, approach women all in the hopes that our practice will pay off in the end but here’s something most people don’t understand or forget... it’s suppose to be fun and this is destination mentality at its worst.

While we were on our journey we need to be working on being kind and gentle. With ourselves. We’re not there yet. We might not ever be successful in the form we want. Ideas. Idealization. KILL YOUR IDOLS.

The fastest way to do this is to approach. When you approach women or a new job or the bench you experience cognitive dissonance, psychologically. Anxiety, or depression emotionally. All that matters is when you get to these places you make peace with yourself.

I have seen guys thinking if they delay getting laid to be akin to delayed gratification and this might work for some but not everybody.

The way I think this works practically in the short term- is you say ok I’ll watch television and be a slob for an hour and a half but first I’ll do the dishes and clean the littler box. The psyche loves making deals. As we learned in from JUNG.

There’s the long term too. For us to study all semester in college and get good grades so we graduate with honors. That takes work. So you probably don’t wanna drink heavily every weekend. Again, what’s important is you be gentle with yourself on the journey.

Don’t wait until it’s over to enjoy life.