It's March. We've all got comfortable in our couch waiting for the lockdowns to end. Women and men aren't able to meet each other. As a result, a lot of guys like me broke the rule of texting only for logistics.

It's the end of July, lockdowns are ending and so should the texting.

Scenario #1 - Online Dating

  1. If she doesn't give you her number, unmatch. Do not negotiate her desire to give you her number.
  2. If she gives you her number but says it's too early to meet. You either meet now or you don't. If it's not now, hard next. You don't want to spend your time waiting for her to change her mind about going out with you.

Scenario #2 - Plate/Fwb

  1. You are meeting regularly - Some texting apart from logistics is perfect. She got a cute puppy in her status/story? Congratulate her and keep it short.
  2. You aren't meeting at all - it's been weeks, she has her own reasons/excuses. You don't reignite the spark because there is no spark left. She hasn't met you in a while. Hard next.

Scenario #3 - LTR

  1. LDR - Breakup and move on. You can't revive the same level of intimacy as before on text or calls or even video calls. That shit doesn't replace the physical proximity!
  2. Communicate clearly to your LTR what you want. If you're like me, you'd clearly state you don't like texting. If she adapts, she's in your frame. If she adapts but still craves attention, use your judgment and operate within your frame. Avoid being in her frame by texting just because she wants. If she doesn't adapt and wants too much of your time and attention through texts, drop her status to plate/fwb or soft/hard next using your judgment.

TLDR - Avoid Texting.