I’ve noticed something as I’ve browsed this group for about 1 year now. Something that just doesn’t add up from listening to people’s field reports.

TRP has some great philosophies and great content. Nothing wrong with going to the gym, working on yourself, your business/job, nothing wrong with any of that. These are all great principles to live by—studies show that people who adhere to these things are generally happier and healthier.

Here’s where some of you are going to throw a fit—“spinning plates” is not an end goal nor is it a healthy medium of forming relationships. It can have some minor benefits, but mostly it is not conducive to a physically or mentally healthy lifestyle. Let me tell you why and do hear me out.

Let’s talk about sex. When you have sex with someone, something very critical happens. You enjoy yourself, you have fun, whatever. However your brain is releasing chemicals that make you feel good and also chemicals to allow you to bond and develop a relationship further.

When you set out to have sex with someone just to get a nut, you’re screwing your mental health in the long run. You’re trying to cheat biological and chemical releases of your brain. By “spinning plates” you have made the conscious decision that “I won’t get attached, I’ll only use them for pleasure.” A lot of you also spin plates in the name of “AWALT, so why try and have a relationship?”

That’s where you’re dead wrong—it is impossible to not get attached to someone when you enter into a sexual relationship. You’re body and brain does it on its own. No matter how much you say you don’t care about the person or how RP you are, you do care about them a little bit. You’re all human and most of you have empathy, emotion, feeling etc. Very few people on this planet are true psychopaths/sociopaths where they lack feeling and whatnot.

After awhile of trying to cheat the bonding process, eventually you’ll either go nuts or you’ll start to feel empty-guaranteed. It may be moments after non-monogamous sex, a day, a week, a month, or whatever—but you will feel something not good. It’s because you didn’t begin with the end in mind.

The idea of spinning plates is not entirely a bad thing. This usually happens when you’re young because you’re in the vetting process. But it should be short lived.

See, going to the gym, working on yourself, your job, your business etc, are not goals—those are minimums. It’s easy to do all that. You can’t take anything with you when you die, but you can leave a legacy and something for your children to carry on for their children.

You want to know what’s hard? Finding a good woman, balancing your life while you’re with her, raising children, and adhering to these principles the whole duration.

Monogamy is not the enemy. I’m assuming most of you desire a mate at some point. “Well how could you just assume that?!” Biology, lads. For the most part there’s a biological tick inside you telling you to procreate and have children; that’s how humanity has survived for thousands of years and the population is increasing. Well how do you do that? You COMMIT, you take risks, but you hedge that risk as best as you can. The hardest part of finding a good woman is vetting her to make sure she is the best mate out there, invested in you, and completely committed to you.

BUT if you adhere to these principles, you will hedge your risk against getting divorce raped, and hedge your risk against a woman leaving you because you properly vetted her.

You can be happy alone, I’m not saying that. You can live a good life, but guess what? You’ll never live the close to perfect life. You can have it all—but you won’t have it all alone. You can get close to having it all alone, but you’ll never get it all. You may have to take risks, but it is possible to have a marriage or LTR that is grounded on male/female dynamics and will prosper forever. Spinning plates isn’t a goal nor is it conducive of a healthy lifestyle.

Cheers.