Going to two chicks hanging at the bar is quite at a feat when there is fear of how one will be received.

How others will judge one's acting is a worry that the social mind fabricates at that moment, along with the fear of how one will be received. But this is fabricated by the mind, it is conditioning our experience but it's not out there, it is only in the mind and projected out there.

If this fabrication fades away in the mind, which it does with practice,the outward projection is non existant and one is free to act. Why? Because the outward projection arises dependent on the arising of fear of outcome.

Why?

Going to two chicks hanging at the bar like ripened fruits ready to be scooped away by a frame ready to accomplish this feat requires outcome indepence.

Not caring what will happen but taking it as a learning exercise done in a playfull way because us humans learn by playing like we did when we were little kids, will take one a long way.

It is called game because one plays. Because there is play there is acting.

Acting is directed automatically by frame and frame becomes unshakeable when there is outcome independence.

How one maintains outcome independence frame? "It's not sure" how one will be received, "It's not sure" I will be alive tomorrow.

"Give me your phone number". It is not sure wether she will give it or not but there is no neediness in the voice. One can verify if he is needy by observing his own voice.

Knowing abundence because there is an abundance of feminine forms contacting your eyes helps maintain outcome independence.

"Oneitins" is fixating on a single form when we lost track of how many we see in a year in a club. So one has to go to the club and see feminine forms to know abundence:)

How one is not needy? He is not needy by knowing that the result is not sure. Knowing conditions experience.

Pleasure can be of a lesser or greater quality. One refuses himself a lesser pleasure so he can get the qreater one. Here comes discipline motivated by greater pleasure.

Frame is a narrative. If a girl asks you a question, there is a lot of info of her narrative. One's narrative can be of fun. Of a playfull being, loving and kind. Also the "I am enough" and "As I am so are others, as others are so I am" helps the narrative.

So she shit tests to see if you buy into her narrative. There is no need to do that, keep your own narrative