TL;DR I set date with potential prospect that I'm talking to for a surprise "adventurous and spontaneous" date. Purposely played blue beta and she got upset.

Met this girl on Tinder, been talking for a while. She's pretty cool and has her head on her shoulders. BA degree and now working two jobs to pay off school. Easily SMV 8. Lived a little bit of a rough life, mother died, they came from Cuba legally(I'm from Miami) so i respect her hustle. By no means has she been easy to take out, with all the loose chicks out there, i consider this to be a good trait. We've had great conversation for about a week. She's told me that she likes nice respectful men, that know how to treat a woman right, whatever that means, i just entertain the small talk.

For the first time she invited me to a bar to meet her and her friends there for some drinks. I went, (i like those awkward meeting friends dates, it's challenging, and i can work on my game in person)and regardless, we had a good time. We already had set plans to go out Sunday(tomorrow) night to this cool new restaurant and get to know each other. We also have plans this upcoming Thursday to go to a small hispanic club for some salsa, that is still set in stone. So the bar invite Friday night was something spontaneous after work.

At the bar I got up, and told her it was getting late and i had to work in the morning, she walked me out of the bar and she asked me if we were still on for Sunday. I said, "yeah we'll talk about it tomorrow." She said alrighty cool.

So now it's Saturday night, and instead of going along with the plans i had, i wanted to test her and be spontaneous. So i said, "be ready tomorrow at 645pm i'll be picking you up. Dress comfy, shorts and a T or sweats and a T." Of course she's reluctant and asks me where we're going and seems all interested(tingles). So i answer the basic questions and don't give much info. She starts asking me what's ok to wear or not, hints, omg i'm so curious, etc etc. At this point it was on.

Then she hit me with i'm not going to end up in some corner dead, right? Obviously i knew at this point i could just say, "no of course not, trust me, k?" I had it in the bag, but i wanted to see what she would do if i pulled away and played the "Nice Guy" card. Up to this point she's been nothing but responsive and excited.

So i said, "Lol, Just get to know me better then. I don't want you to go with me anywhere and feel uncomfortable, I want us to get to know each other the right way." LMAO. It was hard to even send that, but i did. She didn't respond for like 2 hours, and finally when she did, she just said, "Ok." Then an hour later, wrote again, and said, "I was really curious about where we were going, that's all(justifying her lack of decision making of course). I'm still down to go out on Thursday but maybe we should take things a bit slower."

My response -"it's all good no worries. Better bring your dancing shoes :)"

I can probably still salvage this when we go out to dance, IF we go out to dance. But it was a fun experiment, and wanted to share with you guys how quickly you can lose your value in the eyes of a woman with one simple beta move. It's mind boggling. Happy Easter everyone!

Lessons Learned: Always maintain frame, always lead, never make a woman feel like she needs to make a decision. Confidence and SMV go hand in hand. Gained 30lbs, and solid 10% body fat. I would not have been able to do this 3 months ago and be ok with it. Now i can, because of an abundance mentality. It's not just about the gym and getting laid, it's about having fun. If you're not having fun, there's something wrong.

Side Note: Book of Pook is probably one of the best things i've read on here, if you haven't read it, please do so.