M 40 her 40 Dread level 4-5 Married 17 years in relationship for 22 years Red pill for a few years, backslide often. Been lifting for years but due to injury, diet frame seem to be stuck in otter/skinny fat. 5-11 180 Wife's friends say I am hot. When in social situations I have really improved and made myself the life of the party.

Ok to my question. We were having sex pretty consistently 1~2x a week. I would initiate 95% of the time and she would be enthusiastic about 80~90% of the time. I was trying to introduce some light bondage, working on DEVI etc. I had made a covert contract I suppose that if I do all of these things she will start to be more responsive to my flirting etc.

I have a desire for her to be more flirtatious in text, send me nudes etc. I have been suggesting that she gets some piercings.

Anyway, she just wasn't progressing like I wanted(covert contract I guess.)

So 3 weeks ago I stopped initiating, I just don't have any desire to really. I don't masturbate either. It makes me question whether my T-levels are too low or what. I kind of just don't care. However I know that if I found myself around another woman ready for sexy time I would do it, as I have gotten very close in the last four weeks but didn't pull the trigger. Not sure what I should do, just continue not to care if I don't care or should I force myself to initiate and break out of what may be a punishment cycle?