i am in a ltr big age gap. she cohabitates, we do not have to (daily) work.

she does animal/household/laundry i do coocking/mechanical/construction - the classic.

i enforce every boundry and i love brodskys book.

i am the early type so i wake up 5/6 am and take one or two of the dogs outside. she is more the late type and loves to sleep longer.

she misbehaved so i told her she has to go with the dog next morning. ( :):) )

that eavening she got her period (we fucked the day before and she sucked me that eavening and i knew it was the time - so she was not making it up) and this morning she had bad cramps and needed pain pills.

i told her to go but she was „if you....blabla.... i will not do the toilets of you cats daily longer....blabla“.

i saw arround her eyes that she really had extreme cramps.

so i decided not to reinforce the border and gave her some more pain pill and water and walked the dog myself.

i know i should not have set a boundry i cannot reinforce at all circumstances but how to react?

i did not comment at all or called for the „i do that if you blablabla“ just left her there.

the dog had to go outside so there was no alternative.

i am thinking but i do not find any solution beside stfu and ignoring.