i don't know if this is autistic or not. but, i've gotten to the point where If i'm not leading the conversation, I don't want a girl talking to me. I almost never get shit tested when I talk to some shy girl and domineer the conversation. Even really open and talkative girls, if im leading, I keep them away from any thing they could shit test me in. And, when they try to wrestle away from where i steer the conversation, I can easily pull them back. However, I'm no where near being able to control a conversation a girl has already started with me. Then, I'm left listening to them say stupid shit I don't care about. I try to switch topics, I try to ignore, but then I'm called out for doing both. Besides continuing to put myself in situations like that(even though I hate it), what can I do to improve my frame in conversations I don't start?