So I thought I could sleep with this girl however it eventually fell apart, I took a lot longer on her than normal because she a) lives with me so I couldn’t just hard next and b) she’s convenient as I haven’t had time to meet others

Anyway, it fell apart and I think it’s down to 2 things and I’d appreciate any advice on these 2 factors that I think made me miss out:

  1. I was “too mean” to her. I’m a very joking guy, I’ve been brought up by taking the piss and naturally being a bit rude/cheeky however she would often bring it up and ask why I’m so rude to her (would appreciate a good example of a response to this). In hindsight, I did get a lot more rude once it became obvious she was holding back sex, stopping me from escalating multiple times which frustrated me and made me not want to spend time with her, I know this is the point where you’re supposed to next. Is there any advice on handling that annoyance when she rejects sex?

  2. She got too emotionally attached. I did wait too long, she had an issue downstairs so we couldn’t do anything even though she wanted to. Eventually when she was fixed it was more than a hook up. Said if we had sex and then tomorrow I had sex with someone else she’d be upset so I said it’s best that we end it (yes she could be bullshitting but let’s assume she’s being genuine). I’ve got a couple questions regarding this, 1) how do you morally justify plain hook ups when you know she likes you? 2) If a girl does say something similar to what I got, how would you respond? 3) At this point do you just next or is there a strategy/technique that you can apply further.

I’ve still got a long way to go and I’m still unlearning a lot of blue pill/toxic traits but I’m happy with progress I’m making. Some final questions:

  1. how do you handle “Everything is about sex with you” sort of shit tests?

  2. How are you supposed to tell a girl you only want to sleep with her? I felt guilty when I had to say things like that, especially when she clearly has further feelings for you