Hey I'm 20 and just got my first GF (I'm still virgin, only made out with a couple of girls in parties before but didnt have sex or made it a "real thing").

I feel like I'm fucking up a lot right now, I gained a solid frame and can flirt without problem with girls with success but I just act like we're not even together alot of the time (I don't really show much affection besides things like kissing her and putting my hand on her leg when we're sitting) my whole school says that I don't give a shit about her (based on the way I talk to and about her as well as the way I keep flirting with other girls openly.)

This is a problem because I'm her first BF and she's extremely shy, I managed to kiss close her 3 days after meeting her despite that but I just can't seem to act like it's more than some sort of middle school relationship.

She likes me a lot but doesn't seem to think I'm here for more than fucking her as soon as I can.

I think my attitude comes from fear of getting oneitis for her and thus treating her like nothing more than a piece of meat.

It's been going on like this for 3 weeks now and while I do get a bit more affectionate when we're alone I just don't in public, never really said anything that shows affection to her yet.

The problem is her being virgin and shy she won't fuck me if she thinks I don't care about her.

I know this might sound like a retarded question for someone my age but I'm kind off a late bloomer and had to work hard just to get to a "decent" status and missed on plenty so I don't want to keep wasting time and actually catch up and go farther than the other guys my age now.

I've fucked up a bit but she's opening herself more despite her shyness and at that point I am the one at fault because I can't lead properly because of my fear.

I'm not that much attached to her yet, what I fear is growing too much attached to her and getting oneitis.

Adding to that I made out with one of her friends the day after we got together, she has no idea about it but she obviously saw her friend was into me so this just added more problems.

On a side note, this is kinda affecting my work, I just game girls all day long at my school as much as possible because I feel like I'm finally close to fucking now and I want to get rid of that as soon as I can (everybody in my school thinks I already had plenty of GF and fucked already based on the way I act though I never said so.)

How do I balance things out ? This is new for me and I think I'm just afraid of making wrong moves and wasting more time.

I don't want to be a dick but I don't want to get fucked over by investing too much and not getting things in return, though she seems really into me since she proposed to buy me food at the two dates we had and is working on her shyness alot.

Thanks for reading.