I have a sticking point in my socializing where if someone does something I don't like or I think they are taking advantage of me, I become angry and resort to very direct straight talk to let them know what I don't like. I assume this makes me look butthurt and not strong and it's caused problems for many of my relationships, but at the same time, I feel I can't just let the person do whatever they want. How can I let someone know they are doing something that angers, hurts or offends me and at the same time appear not hurt, offended or angry?