My second question: I am unclear on this whole nexting protocol. Here is just one of the situations that happened to me recently and I fucked it up, I think because of poor understanding of nexting protocol.

1 Cold approached (you are hot, wanted to say hi), phone number exchange, texted to meet-up.

  • Met once for 30 mins (no free time because of work schedule, met during lunch break). She didn't text me after.
  • Texted her few days later, she agreed to meet right away, met again 30 mins/lunch-break time. She told me she was leaving for Singapore for 2 weeks in 5 days. And she said " I came to meet you today because I know I won't be able to see you until I come back from Singapore as I've a lot of work I need to finish before leaving "

I said OK.

But as we were leaving (end of 30 mins date): I said: " I want to see you again before you go to Singapore. I don't have any free evenings for few weeks either. So.. let's do this.. I know you said you are going to be busy. So, I won't text you and check when you are free. YOU text me when you are free and I'd try to make it work, even if it's for like 20-30 minutes".

She said "you are so demanding, but ok.. fine"

She never texted. She went to Singapore. Returned. But never texted.

I haven't texted either. This was more than a month ago.

I guess I SOFT-NEXTED her? But I am not sure if that is the right thing to do here because we haven't had sex. We haven't even made out. She works in the building across from my building so we were able to meet at lunch for 30 mins in coffeeshop frequented by both our office colleagues so I didn't attempt to make out or escalate much. I only created some mild attraction and then put myself in corner by saying 'I won't text you, you text me instead'. Now if I text, I'd look needy. If I hadn't said that, I could have texted her, met again at a more

2 Question 2: SOFT NEXT, HARD NEXT are to be applied only to women you've had sex with or even during pre-sex phase?

Like if you go out on a first or second date with someone and she behaves in a way you don't like (eg: plays with her phone too much even after you playfully tell her not to, or is too non compliant), do you SIMPLY GET UP AND LEAVE? Or do you play it cool (until the end of the date) and then go radio-silent? Reference: http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?5492-How-To-Soft-Next-Step-by-step-instructions-and-answers-to-questions