I've been enjoying B.C.'s finest, so this might end up being a bit long.

TL;DR: multiple plates are seriously legitimate contenders. All in love, but no one admits it because of my aloofness. Ready to focus on one, want to cause the least amount of pain to the others.

Background: gf of 2 years cheated on me for the entirety of our relationship, starting 8 hours after we started dating and everything was discovered last November. Since then I found TRP after already having a firm foundation in human interaction, have lost 55 lbs, got a dog, am going out most nights of the week to cool, artsy events, am dating a lot of women, have run a half marathon and am really feeling like the Captain of my life.

Note: This is not meant to sound like a humblebrag. This is a legitimate situation that I'm in.

I'm currently spinning five plates and have been for three - four months. Every single one of them is a legitimate contender. They are all great girls and I would get into a LTR with any one of them. Only one of them knows that I'm currently dating other girls. But after only ever dating one girl at a time, I am really enjoying dating all of these girls and having the freedom to spin up new ones if I feel like it.

One of them, the most recent one, Denise, is really checking a lot of boxes for me. She is 22, is a nurse, and I'm 40, which she's aware of. We've been chatting online for a few weeks. I know the TRP stance on texting, but I feel like I can be cool with any new girls who seem shy or hesitant because I've already got plates spinning. She came to my place for our first meeting last weekend. The electricity was there, she was hotter than the pictures she'd sent and everything that we each said was pushing all the right buttons for the other. We fucked about an hour after she showed up and kept it up all night. We've been talking and texting a lot since then (she currently lives in a different city an hour away, works afternoon shift and I work 9 - 5).

Last night she told me how hard she was falling for me, that I'm different, etc. She's already told her mother and some of her patients about me. She had already told me that she's submissive, which is perfect for me. But last night she said, "...I don't want to sound anti-feminist, but I really like when a guy leads in the relationship. And that's one of the big reasons I'm so into you. I can't say what I'm trying to say [even though TRP already told me exactly what she was going to say] but think of two people driving a car, going in the same direction together. They both can't drive at the same time. If they both pulled on the steering wheel at the same time they'd crash the car. Someone has to navigate, but the driver needs to be the one to make all of the decisions. If he goes against what the navigator says then the navigator needs to respect that and go along with it."

She later went on to tell me that she feels that the man cares for and protects the woman, so regardless of whether they both have jobs, the woman should be the one to keep the house clean and cook the meals. She's asked me to show her how I cook, so that she can make meals so that I like the way they're cooked. She's smart, funny, has a great job in which she's near the top of her department, is incredible in bed, practically worships the ground I walk on and seems to be freshly pressed from the /r/redpillwomen press. I'd never say that she's a unicorn, but for an LTR contender she gets two thumbs up from me.

My problem is this: I'm ready to focus on Denise. However, I'm not going to say anything to any of the others - including Denise - until Denise drops the L-word, which I can tell is hanging from her lips. It might be months until she says it, but when she does, how do I drop/put the others on the back burner in as gentle a way as possible? They are all truly fantastic women. I'm not being an egoist when I say this, but I know that they'll all be crushed when I tell them that "whatever it is that we have going on is over". I'm hesitant to post this question to /r/relationships because, well, you know... (plus they'd love the /r/theredpill references). So please, I'm open to much of your advice.