All,

Lately I've noticed my control in my LTR. Among other things, I'm starting to get more sex again like when we started dating a few years ago. Her attitude is becoming one of following. Doing all the things for myself (fixing things, making decisions, ordering food for her-she says is sexy, continuing lifting, etc.) she has moved away from feeling like she can tell me what to do or bitch and think I will acknowledge her. She's now very affectionate and warm and sex has starting picking back up.

So my question to all of you is: how do you (personally) reward good behavior from a plate, ltr, wife? I've gotten great at rewarding myself, but I've read that if you don't reward good behavior, it can be just as bad as rewarding bad behavior. I think I got stuck thinking rewarding her = covert contract in the making.

Thanks!