which way do you guys think it's the best to be?

i am naturally very calm (to the point where almost everyone notices) and serious about my life, my time, etc.

but lately i've been trying to become more fun, charismatic and social. i usually preffer observing and dont talk unless i have something good to say, but as i heard, this is just weird to girls.

now, i dont care what some dumb girls think but this wont get me any closer to fucking anyone.

so what do you think? what works for you?