Something missing from dates

Unlikely_Composer · 2020-12-30T13:40:16+00:00

Don’t trust a woman’s words when they rate your attractiveness, trust their actions.

If you’re getting dates then immediate attraction probably isn’t the issue, you’re probably fucking up the escalation stage.

If they don’t feel comfortable they won’t want to come back to your place.

Fabulous-Craft · 2020-12-30T14:18:14+00:00

What’s missing from your dates is escalation that amplifies attraction.

It’s like they think your good looking enough to date, but then when your out, it’s like sitting with a friend and not someone who is going to have sex with them.

There is no excitement on your dates or escalation, just nice conversation. Do you feel like this is happening?

If your having a meal, make sure you sit in a booth on the same side of her and don’t be afraid to touch her arm or forearm. Place yourself close to her.

Do not discuss casual things, make fun of her, make her laugh about herself, don’t wait until the end of a date to escalate physically.

Don’t be afraid to get sexual in conversations, just don’t talk about it directly about her. Make sure it’s challenging and fun.

Also I used to have a 3 location principle on my dates. First dinner at a rustic dimly lit pub or restraunt, then drinks at an upscale bar / pub and then somewhere fun like a private kareokee room or somewhere else, escalate the night smoothly just like you are escalating the date.

Get exciting, get different.

RichieTheWise · 2020-12-30T14:15:28+00:00

Is your main focus when you go on dates to have FUN? Or are you worried about it going well?

AloofusMaximus · 2020-12-30T15:25:32+00:00

So if you're getting dates you have that covered.

Getting from dates to home or other dates is the problem. If you're noticing a pattern, you're the problem.

Do you have a plan/system in place for dates? Wal me though your last date

Mr_Badass · 2020-12-30T21:29:30+00:00

They probably need more comfort.

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Something missing from dates

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Title	Something missing from dates
Author	Ekhochambeer
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	December 30, 2020 12:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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