What do you do when your gf starts getting fat?

despoticVeracity · 2015-06-15T15:53:16+00:00

Start travelling down the 11 stages of dread. Look it up in MRP.

JackGoldsteinWrites · 2015-06-15T16:43:42+00:00

If you're doing your job and established your frankness, you can just tell her she's getting fat. I know it's crazy, you think Dread game is the key. Dread game is a tool, definitely, but it can't compare to having established yourself as a guy with a bit of an asshole edge who speaks his mind and then speaking your mind.

I have told my girlfriend: You can get wrinkles, fine. You can get a bit of cellulite, fine. You can dye your hair, fine. You can color your nails purple, fine. But don't you EVER cut your hair short or get fat.

The dread game for her is only to realize I have options if she breaks these rules. It's 5% dread, 95% just being direct / assertive / unapologetic about desires. The only dread is resulting from things I'd be doing ANYWAY to up my own self-worth (above and beyond my SMV)

If she flips you either set up the wrong frame or she's not the one for you, either way, it's what you need to know.

FelixCopy · 2015-06-15T18:43:55+00:00

She's not a unicorn. Unicorns don't exist. You're telling me you have a fat unicorn? Oneitis.

vfree · 2015-06-15T16:04:13+00:00

Spend more time at the gym. By yourself. Flirt with other women.

The_BeardedGentleman · 2015-06-15T16:18:33+00:00

Go to the gym yourself. Message her about all the great programs they have there. Mention other female during this. Like "Erica at the desk was telling me about these great programs some of the women do here". Whatever you feel like would make her slightly uncomfortable. Dread that shit if she is unwilling to go on her own.

It really depends on the girl though. I can look mine straight in the face and say "you've gained 10 pounds, whats up with that? No one can change that but you so get on it, don't give me any excuses". Theres really no response she can make after that. And I know her mind won't push the blame of it onto me, because thats just how she works. Not all of them work the same though, so take that into account when you speak to her.

Fulp_Piction · 2015-06-15T16:15:05+00:00

Dread game that bitch, if she doesn't respond cut your losses and plate up.

spoetnick · 2015-06-15T18:34:39+00:00

When me and my girl were getting serious, I established some boundaries. One of those was the fact that I despise fat people. I told her that if she started to be fat, my attraction for her would die. Without attraction I wouldn't plate a girl, or even have ONS with her. I told her then and there that if she got fat, we were done.

Every time I spot a person with a intriguing physique, I like to point it out. Good looking hard body chick, I'll tell her what I like about it. Confident looking guy with amazing triceps, i'd probably be 'miring and pointing it out. Fat SOB, will be pointing at it, laughing, and telling her that I don't that lifestyle as an actual life.

She started to lose some weight after that conversation, started working out more. I am very supportive of behavior like that. Pointing out her progress, helping her with a diet, validating her efforts when she got back from working out.

Last winter she was putting on some more weight, I started pinching her muffing top and asked her what's going on. Basically some 'much stress, not working out, eating wrong food'-excuse.

Told her that my idea's about fat people still are the same, and if she kept this up I probably wouldn't be attracted to her anymore. The next day she started working out and eating right again. After she lost a few KG she told me she's feeling better again, and that working out helps with the stress. Maybe it was some form of comfort test, maybe she was just slacking. But telling her bluntly that i don't do fat chicks is working for me so far.

alreadyredschool · 2015-06-15T18:41:07+00:00

Poke her belly. And make her remember that beach season started.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-06-15T20:36:54+00:00

I don't feel that I can ask her straight up to lose the weight (society blah blah).

[Eastwood Squint]

WTF?

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What do you guys do in situations like this?

You nut up and tell her not to get fat. Fuck 'society' and 'but...but...but I'm PRETTY at any weight!' or whatever. If she's porking up, you must take action.

And nip that shit at 5 lbs and not 25 lbs.

So how to? Be direct. It's ok to be stressed about not finding work; it's not okay to put on weight because of it and making you lose your boner.

I think you simply have not set expectations appropriately. You need to reward good behavior and punish (or 'disincentivize', if you prefer) bad behavior, like sitting around, feeling sorry for herself, and narfing down Hagen Daz. That's for post-wall feminists who live in 1 BR flats with their cat colonies.

masterrod · 2015-06-15T22:44:43+00:00

What's stopping you from having marathon sex with her? Or increasing the amount of sex with her? Or having sweaty sex with her?

More sex can help her with her depression over getting a job, and give her more confidence. And may help you with both issues

Xemnas81 · 2015-06-15T16:33:11+00:00

Depends how fat

Like just a pound or 2 then I'd be chill with it provided she wasn't getting iffy with my fluctuating physique

If it was significant like 10lbs+ I'd probably sit down with her and talk about why she's feeling stressed etc.

If she called me fat or anything I'd then call her out, until then I'd probably be BP-ish

BudapestPUA · 2015-06-15T16:49:23+00:00

I don't feel that I can ask her straight up to lose the weight

No but you can tell her that her appearance started to reduce your desire.

blacwidonsfw · 2015-06-15T15:49:54+00:00

Take her too the gym with you and made her do squats and crunches.

[deleted] · 2015-06-16T00:27:46+00:00

Get her naked look her up and down, tell you aren't in the mood.

imaterriblelurker · 2015-06-15T19:45:01+00:00

Dump her.

How could you even ask?!

If a person is not taking care of themselves what are the chances they will take care of you if ever you need to be taken care of? Dump that butter huffer.

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Title	What do you do when your gf starts getting fat?
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Date	June 15, 2015 3:42 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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